Cancer craves attention and affection. Aquarius craves authenticity, originality, and intellectual stimulation (they can be quite existential). What this couple needs to do is create structure. You should schedule time on your calendar to sit down and talk to each other with no distractions. Go over your week and talk about your differing perspectives. The more you hear from one another, the more youll really start to understand each other. This will help you satisfy each others needs.
Its really easy for this couple to lose track of how the other person thinks and feels. This is why carving out time on your schedule to talk to each other will do wonders for your relationship. Eat your meals together at a table and turn off the TV. Got kids? Then you definitely need to schedule a time during the week where you can meet without the kids.
I think a good way for these two to navigate their relationship is to spend time one on one — and not necessarily on lavish dates. Cancer does love the extravagant, the dazzling, and the quirky, but they dont need money-centric dates to be happy in a relationship. When it comes down to it, they are romance-obsessed, so as long as they feel pursued they will feel content.
In order to balance this relationship, try new things out in the city, and try staying at home together. This will help with the flow of energy you are experiencing. Cancers tend to have introverted aspects, but leaving one alone to their own devices can backfire. Cancer can get depressed when lonely; they thrive off watching social interactions. Aquarius has some introverted aspects as well since they love ideas so much, but theyre natural social butterflies.
Cancer desires to fully express themself, while Aquarius—the existential warrior—searches for the meaning of true love. Aquarius needs to work harder on expressing their feelings and not just living in their head. Aquarius can be distant, and this can be very difficult for Cancer. Cancer will see Aquarius as aloof; it would be best for Cancer to reserve judgment.
Aquarius—try not to see your Cancer as needy just because you dont operate the same way. Ask yourself if they really want too much or if youre not offering enough. Also, remember Cancers are moody. Sometimes you just need to be patient and ride the waves with them. Your calm demeanor will do wonders for your partner.
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Dont expect to be mirror s of each other. Aquarius is more yang and Cancer is more yin.
Here is how I see it:
The great thing about this match is the support they can find in each other. Cancer is incredibly kind, forgiving, and gracious—they will be there for their partner and do all they can for them. Cancer really cares about Aquarius and will champion them to be their best self. Cancers perspective is enlightening and helps Aquarius to see and understand others.
This couple does well to explore their similarities and differences. Be open to each other and explore how you are both weird and eccentric. Aquarius is a fast-paced thinker and may get ahead of Cancer, which can make Cancer jealous. Cancer needs to learn to appreciate Aquarius mind if they want Aquarius to manifest physical affection. In turn, Aquarius needs to appreciate and nurture Cancers major moods. Listen, dont talk over it. When Cancer hurts, dont try to talk it all away.
Quick Tips for Aquarius-Cancer Couples
Dont be afraid to initiate. Make your desires and needs known. Dont expect your partner to read your mind.
Reassure each other. Be devoted to each other. Push your strengths. Be compassionate in regards to your partners flaws.
Dont let fear, insecurity, or arrogance guide you. Seek love first.
Both of these zodiacs are deep, spiritual, and big-hearted. Cancer needs Aquarius’ reassurance, as Cancer can feel rocked by waves of emotion.
Aquarius should try building a safe space for the Cancer to delve into their emotions, just as Aquarius needs a safe space to explore ideas. Cancer needs to be open to Aquarius need for mental stimulation: Cancer should talk, explore ideas, try new and bizarre things, laugh, be witty, and push their own intellect. Aquarius—a true sapiosexual—will appreciate it.
I think having a spiritual connection helps; try going to church, exploring music, philosophy, or even new age ideas. You both do well with exploring and emoting. You both crave abstract things and have a tendency to resist the tangible and practical.
Aquarius is incredibly open-minded and doesnt really fit into a box. However, Aquarius is notoriously stubborn. Aquarius stubbornness can be a good thing though because Cancer changes their opinion regularly. Its nice for Cancer to be with a fixed sign because theyre decisive and keep things cohesive.
You need a place where both of you can feel at home expressing your thoughts and feelings. Its all about finding balance together, learning who you are, and motivating each other. Know how you are different and see what your goals are—both individually and as a couple.
Communicate Openly and Honestly
Dont be afraid to share anything with each other. The more you learn about each other and how to depend on each other, the more you will stick together. There is a certain sweet vibe from this pairing. There is a good chance theyll enjoy each others company and wish to stay together for the long term.
Aquarius does have their own wacky methods, and Cancer will struggle at times to understand what is happening. You two need to make a concerted effort to communicate and compromise when necessary. Compromise is your friend, not your enemy.
Its important that you find middle ground and dont demand that things go your way. People like to be involved in decisions. It can come off as controlling if you dont include your partners input. Avoid random, surprise trips. Instead, plan trips together and work together to hash-out details.
Developing a healthy sexual relationship between these two signs takes a lot of work. Cancer is an extremely emotional sign, and they rarely engage in intimacy if they havent already developed a solid emotional foundation with the other person.
Cancer wants to go on a powerful journey with someone. Theyre looking for a deep, soulful connection. Water signs have a strong desire to merge. Aquarius, as an air sign, wants to be good at what theyre doing, so theyll try their best to give as much as they can. Aquarius is more chatty, experimental, and unpredictable. Cancer is game for Aquarius creativity; however, the unpredictableness might upset Cancer who likes things to be familiar (and not so riddle-like).
Aquarius needs to let down their guard and Cancer needs to communicate with words, not just their eyes. Cancer needs to sometimes relax and not take things too seriously. It will make Aquarius feel bad if youre taking things too seriously.
Cancer is prone to crying and using their hands. Aquarius is prone to laughing, chatting, handstands, and whatever catches their fancy. You two may have to work a little harder to find common ground, or your emotions might explode—though that could be a good thing.
A relationship between these signs can end up being very unbalanced if the two parties dont make a concerted effort from the get-go to find a healthy equilibrium.
Cancer has a hard time setting boundaries, as they really dont like letting others down. This can create problems in the relationship; they fear that saying no might cause their partner to think less of them.
Cancer may agree to things they dont really want to do. Cancer needs to recognize that they can be too agreeable and that boundaries are okay. At the same time, Aquarius needs to respect boundaries and not take advantage of Cancer.
Cancer is moody and spiritual, which makes sense given that its ruling planet is the moon. Aquarius, on the other hand, is full of energy and emotions that it hides behind a cool exterior. Aquarius—an air sign, yet a water bearer—has a lot more emotional power to it than people give it credit for, but the sign is so complicated that people dont always see or connect with it.
Aquarians live powerfully in their heads; theyre opinionated, independent, and take charge in their own unique ways. Aquarius is an unusual case of yang. Theyre not assertive like fire signs, but they can be very cutting. Aquarius is known for its candor.
Cancer doesnt really like candor. They dont really like to rock the boat. Cancer is content with observing and staying safe on the sidelines. Cancer craves rest, pleasure, and a space to go through all their moods. Cancer wants to release all their woes. Aquarius wants to absorb as much energy as possible. (Aquarius is a stamina machine. Like a hummingbird on caffeine.)
These two have very different perspectives and go about their energy in different ways. They can find middle ground if they want to find middle ground.
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When these two forces come together, you can expect a lot of emotion, mood swings, and sentimentality. This may create a situation where power feeds back into itself, over and over, making for a weird, potentially destructive mix. But if Cancer and Aquarius can figure out how to blend their two personalities, they will become an unstoppable force.
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
© 2017 Andrea Lawrence
Hb on September 07, 2020:
I agree with most of this article, but I’m unsure about the Yin-Yin.
TL on August 04, 2020:
After we had conversation about work and career in our industry (I guess he liked that part the most),
We sang to each other (I like this part the most).
Seems like its not hard for a date to satisfy both. But what matters is in the long run. He seems to treasure his exploration to the world (hes a blogger btw) and spend mere amount of time replying my messages. Like other guy/girl in this comment part, Cancer like us does not like that. But as long as I know hes happy with individual-focused lifestyle, and I myself figure out sometimes I am just demanding, it would be fine.
Of course some day I will be more demanding than I am today ha ha. And it would be nasty :))
So far so good. Would love to hear your story about this weird mixed rls.
Wittney brown on July 14, 2020:
cancer girl on July 07, 2020:
So, I’ve been dating an aquarius man for almost a year now. And we’ve known each other since middle school, and got into a fresh new relationship my senior year of high school and we built a very understanding relationship and had those heart to heart conversation. Although, we are doing long distance for the summer he called for a break, and I can’t seem to draw my own emotional boundaries and stop being so possessive adding on that we constantly argue about past situations. We planned and already booked a flight to come visit me which I feel is the only thing holding us together. I can say both of our different worlds get along best when we’re physically together. Other than our very similarities our differences bring out different interests and we explore each other’s differences and expand our passions and views. It’s just the arguments that hurt me more then him, yet nothing is ever perfect?!
Girl with no name on June 27, 2020:
Am a cancer and am dating an aquarius guy. We have been in a relationship for nine months now and funny thing about our relationship its that its long distance. We have come to terms with that and we have learnt to make the most of the time we get to spend together. However, lately we have been having arguments, because as a cancer am sensitive to certain issues or treatment i would easily realise some changes in my partner in which if i try to comment on it my partner tends to react not violently but he just goes silent so i have to try and reach out all the time and its stressful at times but despite all this what i love is that he understands me and he is trying to fit in my world as much as i try to fit in his. We make a perfect Combo i believe and however much they say that a cancer should avoid the air signs, i feel like if thats where your destiny lies then the zodiac compatibility doesn’t matter as such
Cant say on June 14, 2020:
I am a cancer and I was in a relationship with an Aquarius and I was really attractive to him but he ended up with me cheating with a virgo. Tell me why?
Cant say on June 14, 2020:
I am a cancer and I was in a relationship with an Aquarius and I was really attractive to him but he ended up with me cheating with a virgo. Tell me why?
aqua woman cancer man on June 13, 2020:
If the cancer man is intellectually stimulating and aqua woman is patient enough to work on their differences , this duo has a great potential.
Aquarius will feel unique with cancer lover and this is really important for her. Cancer will feel cared and will appreciate honesty of Aqua a lot. This isnt a they hit it off at that moment style relationship but it may be really fulfiling for both parties if they love each other enough to put some effort.
… on May 19, 2020:
ok so, i have a friendship with an aquarius. as the emotional and sensitive cancer i am, he often tries to cheer me up which is the opposite of the stereotypes online. i really like him, as he cares a lot. but, i texted him and unusually he didn’t answer even after a few hours. which is unlike him even when we’re playing games. i can’t help but feel he is avoiding me. oh and i forgot to mention, he calls me adorable nicknames and randomly calls me cute. maybe he likes me too? we both joke around a lot, making fun of each other, randomly laughing at random stuff and things like that. we haven’t been friends long but i miss him…? he asks every morning to see me. so we see each other everyday, i couldn’t today and i don’t know if he maybe got hurt by it. we barely talked today then randomly in the middle of us texting he left randomly and I haven’t heard from him since. i barely have these kinds of feelings so it makes me feel quite worried for him, his health etc. we have a few years age gap, so i would assume he is busy with work but or school. we were playing together he said he had to leave, we texted a bit after and thats when he stopped answering. i can’t help but think about it, it’s been on my mind the whole day. i truly hope nothing bad happened to him. i’m crazy for acting like this.
tina26 on April 11, 2020:
im a cancer and dating an aquarius guy. weve been together for more than two years now. but since the past few months our relationship doesnt seen to be working well. in fact, he thinks that we just aint right for each other and to end this relationship would be in our best interest now. i dont know if I should suggest him to take second thoughts or let the situation be. as i still have a few hope left which isnt allowing my heart to let it pass.
Marlin Tech ITL on March 24, 2020:
Devaprioya saha on March 22, 2020:
cancer is a critical disease but if a cancer patient get mental energy and proper treatment s/he may be cure. Yesterday I saw a movie where a man make physical relationship with an aids patient but he wasnt attacked by it
Precious K on February 19, 2020:
I’m an Aquarius woman and my man is a Cancer .
We’ve been together for exactly 4 months today ,not the easiest relationship but definitely the most romantic and the first I’ve ever felt the need to let my guard down.
I’ve always believed that I’m a great communicator in my past relationships but my current relationship has proved to me that I’m far from it and I need a lot of fixing , especially emotionally .
My partner is quite soft hearted , gentle ,sensitive and pretty much quite emotional and me on the hand ? The exact opposite ( but I am really working on it because I think it’s necessary for our relationship to survive ).
We met at a friends wedding and although we couldn’t speak the minute we saw one another , we later on found a way to each other and believe me you , when I say the hug that man gave me felt very different , I mean it .
That hug was so affectionate, full of love and I could feel my common sense leave my entire body
Cancer Cat on February 10, 2020:
I have been talking to an Aquarius,and as a Cancer l am at the stage in my life that l love the fact they love their independence and freedom. We are just getting to know each other but my gut instinct tells me this is everything l have been looking for in my life,and l do have some psychic abilities. This feels really good!
Words on January 29, 2020:
I am what they (whoever created all the zodiacs and their meanings) call an Aquarius . However my best friend of 13 years is a Cancer . Nothing breaks us apart . I truly believe in my heart that he’s my soulmate . I find these articles interesting and quite informative but truthfully true love never dies and no matter what SIGN(s) are compared I feel that we all are entitled to love.
Carlasherrie on January 20, 2020:
Im an Aquarius women (who turns 40 on the 25th) dating a Cancer man (who turns 30, on June 21st). We have only been dating a few months, so we are still getting to know each other. Now, since he is younger, I was a little reserved about dating him, but decided to try something new. The other day, we had a phone conversation, where he asked me if Ive always been so confident in relationships? Which I told him, no. I then told him of when I was in my early 20s, I had a guy friend that was already financially stable in his career, and wanted to date me, but I felt inadequate compared to him, because I wasnt on his “financial level”. (My own personal insecurities, of course)..So I told him now that Ive grown, I do not allow that kind of mindset to even remotely control my decisions. Well, he took that conversation and made it about him, he said that he can “get a hint”, I act as if I miss my ex, and he would never have “disrespected” me by bringing up and ex…
[email protected] on January 14, 2020:
Scott Harvey- id advice you to fly. Im an Aquarius guy and i dated a cancer for over 10 years. She was amazing but he moods wings were above normal we are two different. Youd get frustrated dating an Aquarius and youd cause her too much stress as her love for freedom will cause you a heart break and put you into an emotional roller coasters. I’d advice you let that one go. It may hurt now but its an easier hurt than it will be if you stay with her.
Scott Harvey on December 20, 2019:
Im a cancer guy and am thinking about starting up a relationship with an aquarius woman should I try? Or fly?
Jujudee on December 01, 2019:
Aquarius woman who’s soulmate is a cancer man. The 2 times I’ve loved they were both cancer men. They both taught me how to love unconditionally. I was able to open up and allow them to teach me how to love and live and I’m forever grateful for it.
Cancerrrgirlll on November 23, 2019:
Well I’m a cancer and this guy is an Aquarius we have just started to hang out on a regular basis . So at the start , everything was perfect , smooth sailing even the intimacy is spot on. But what I’ve noticed he won’t open up to me emotionally, it’s like talking to a wall I feel paranoid he’s not being honest with me . I saw he had “ muted “ me from his Instagram stories I had brought that up out of curiously and he full blown denies it and try to put it under the rug. I’ve been nothing but honest and tried to get him to open up. In all honesty I’ve done things to make him happy and honestly I think he will still end things with me all because things hasn’t been flowing ever since I’ve been getting these vibes he’s not being 100% honest . He gets angry when I try to even have a heart and heart conversation and being told “ I worry too much “ . The trust isn’t there . I don’t know what to do with this . It’s something I’ve never dealt with before . I feel like I’m going to feel extremely used . I even said to him I needed “ reassurance “ and “ validation “ and he response was “ why do I keep bringing this up “ . He much rather sleep together than be honest and talk about how we are actually feeling . I want him to be free to do that . It’s a big elephant in the room .
cancer girl on November 17, 2019:
Well, me and my man always trying to understand to each other Im a cancer girl and he is a aqua sometimes we fight a lot but my man was always sweet to me even though Im always moody and we still work together miss each other weve been in a break up situation for 1 week but after that he try to comfort me and try to get back each other cause he said even if he try to break up and do want he want there still missing so here Im happy and getting married soon.
cancer girl on November 17, 2019:
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on November 07, 2019:
Dont let other peoples comments scare you. Everyone is in their own unique situation — and there is no guarantee theyre all being honest. If you love the person and it feels right, keep at it.
Cancer girl on November 05, 2019:
I am falling for an aqua guy but these comments scare me. I think a cancer man and aqua woman go well.. but in my case, who knows. He is not as attentive as I would like
Emma B on September 22, 2019:
Im an Aquarius woman and Ive been dating an cancer guy for 9 months. I can easily say hes the loveliest man Ive ever dated. He is sensitive and gentle very loving and a extremely gentle and attentive lover. I am proud to say he is mine! I love him completely.
Aquarius 🙂 on September 16, 2019:
My soulmate is a Crab man. We dated for only 2 years, he partied too much, so this girl ran away. We can be across a room, and speak just with our eyes. We can be in different states, and just know. This tenacious Cancer chased me for 20 years. As soon as he stopped partying, yup it took awhile….we rekindeled and got back together. He is my soulmate, and I am his.
This Aquarious (me) woman has a cancer rising sign and a leo moon!
My lovely Cancer man has a Leo Rising sign.. (so Aquarious is in his 7th house of partnership.) and a Gemini moon. Other things are compatible as well.
When we first met, in the first 5 second it felt like we had already spent a lifetime together, a past life. It is deep.
So thank you all you Crab men and boys, dont give up hope if your Aquarius ever loved you, just find out the one thing that scared them, and do it differently.
My Cancer did not have to change the core of who he is/was, just that party craziness. Aquarius are very loyal and I have 8+ life long friends. If we feel free to be ourselves and respected, we will never forget you. xox
Aqua Woman on September 14, 2019:
Im an Aqua woman whos always been attracted to Cancer men. My strongest relationships have always been with Cancers. Cancers are my people! My soul mate who Ive know for 30+years is the one who taught me love and that I could be loved.
We dated for 10 years; things were not perfect, but we loved each other fiercely. He knew me better than I knew myself. We had so much in common & so many differences. He did everything right. He always made the right decisions; me not so much. I was a F****up back then. Even though things didnt work out in our romantic relationship; we still remain good friends. We still have genuine love for each other and always will.
Justin on August 24, 2019:
Cancer guy dated an Aquarius girl for a year.. my advice is don’t do it.
Obviously all women are different but I just found it’s all take and no give. Never would tell me what was wrong, would be super into us one day then just randomly ignore me for a week, then say nothing was wrong.
I think cancer Aquarius make good work colleagues and acquaintances, and I think there’s a lot on the love front that works..
But when it comes down to it we’re emotional and needy and they are emotionless and cruel.
Cancer on June 08, 2019:
Hmm from what i observed from comments i think an Aquarius woman and a cancer man can work but An aquarius man with a cancer woman looks like a nightmare..am a lady and cancer and av an Aquarius male frnd ,it cant work..and d last thing i want in my life is make a mistake that will leave me unhappy in my marriage..
Ree on May 17, 2019:
I am a Cancer woman and My yet to be husband is an aquarius man. We been together for eight years now. We have three beautiful children together and have built a life with one another. He is my high school sweetheart! It honestly has took “ALOT” Of effort in building our relationship to exactly where we are at today! I am grateful to have met my soulmate. I feel as if we were made for one another. We are both completely different people with different personailites but when we came together, We became one! It still takes both of us to actually make our relationship work but at the end of the day. its true love that connects us
Aquarius woman &cancer man on March 23, 2019:
I am aquarius woman and my man is cancer wow I really love him so much and he love me a lot. We made to each other and I felt he is my soulmate forever. BK
Billie Bob Joe on March 23, 2019:
Im a cancer and i like my bestfriend and she is a aquarius and she likes me to but we are kinda on the low about it because we both know we like each other but then agian we are still bestfriends and weve been bestfriends since 6th grade and i think were both scared that if it dosnt work out that it will ruin our friend ship forever but we still want to take a chance on each other even though were so scared that things will change forever
Greeneyegal on March 21, 2019:
I am an aquarius woman and ive been dating a Cancer man for the last last year, we are very similar in how we deal with stress which is shutting down. Our biggest thing we have to work on is communication. I dont like talking about my feelings or small trivial things and he feels like Im hiding things. We joke around that im the man in the relationship! I think it can work, it just takes time to acknowledge where you are willing to compromise and where you arent.
Uroosa Khan on March 21, 2019:
I m cancer woman and love with Aquarius man at initial stage it was marvelous relation but after 3 years I felt he is going away from me he is careless and never understand my feelings he never express his feeling… Why.. I cant live without him but we are facing problems to living with each
bob on March 07, 2019:
ok and so i like my cancer best friend, and i am a aquarius women. the thing is hes dating my other friend, who is also an aquarius. what should i do? my friend used to like me but.
Drew an Diana on January 17, 2019:
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Valencia on December 13, 2018:
Im an Aquarian woman in love with my Cancer man… its been rocky throughout our relationship. breaking up to make up. It seems like we cant live with or without each other. I do believe we are twin flames. this article makes perfect sense. Im emotionally detached and always told myself i know most things and didnt really give him time to speak up. we decided to stay together despite our differences and that helps us to love and support each other unconditionally. the storms have settled. I hope other wind and water signs will be able to find this balance in their relationship.
Quartz on November 22, 2018:
Im an Aquarius woman engaged to a Cancer man, and weve learned each others strengths and weaknesses and we are rolling with it.
I went back to school in the sciences at 30 after 8 years in the visual arts Hes buckled down and told me not to worry about home, just worry about school and my education. He pushed me to go after my pursuit of knowledge because he realized I wasnt happy just settling for a job that paid the bills.
I am trying to give back to him, make space for him, allow him the socializing that he needs, but we know that the next couple years will be hard, and I know hes making a lot of sacrifices.
What I need to make sure I do is listen to his needs. When he no longer needs to support me, and–lets shoot high–when I have my own environmental research lab, then I can support him. Hell get to live his dream of being the stay-at-home-dad of a littler of corgis like hes always wanted, while playing and writing D&D campaigns in his spare time. Or even I can support him while he returns to school to study ancient history.
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on September 12, 2018:
I always tell people that we can find on this planet every match under the sun — there is a way for every match to succeed and fail, but the design and mechanics of it is unique to each pair. There is no such thing as a bad match between zodiacs.
PancakeRichie on August 28,