How Long Should I Wait After Matching On Tinder to Message? ONLINE DATING ADVICE FOR MEN AND WOMEN
You match at the moment that you swipe her right
We just discussed the scenario where she is the one that likes you back last and starts the match.
But what if you’re the one that sets off the match?
Now you’re not sure if she’s even on her phone, let alone if she’s excited about the match. Maybe she swiped you right 3 days ago.
Is this the right time to message your new Tinder match?
Before I spoon-feed you the answer, what do you think?
I’m confident you have a good head on your shoulders. So let’s work towards the answer together.
Not unless you hired the guy from Taken to follow her.
Do you know if she’s still excited about the match?
No. But you do know that she probably was excited about seeing if you were a match when she swiped you.
No. But you can make that more likely by having a killer opener. Here are 33 of the best Tinder openers that you can steal right now.
So when is the best time to message her if you triggered the Tinder match?
(so when YOU were the last one to like. She had already liked you earlier.)
The longer you wait, the more likely she’s going to forget you. Or date someone else.
We reached the point where most guys get themselves into all sorts of trouble.
“Her text was a little short, I think it’s best to make her wait for my answer so that she knows she has to work a little harder.”
Here’s something I want you to hammer into your brain:
Hardly any woman will see your 12-hour-late text as a sign to try harder to win you over.
But not if you matched yesterday and you’ve only exchanged a handful of texts.
Because she has little to no reason to feel attracted to you. Only your photos and a couple of texts.
See how being very slow to reply (in the early stages) could actually motivate her to give up on you?
Instead, your strategy in the early stages should be to try and text as soon as she sends you something.
Because then she’s holding her phone and it’s much more likely she’ll reply! (Remember, she’s on Tinder to meet people, not to ghost them.)
With some luck, she does text back and you can have a 5+ minute chat over text.
You don’t want to be the guy that ALWAYS texts back in the blink of an eye.
Chill out, that’s dinner time. Focus on getting your grub on.
No stress, those are office hours. Take your time and answer later.
Point is, don’t be too available at times where culture dictates you shouldn’t be.
By occasionally making her wait for an answer, she gets the idea that you have a life and that you’re desperate for Tinder dates. (Like most guys.)
By showing you’re different from the herd, you’ll become more attractive to her.
Does that sound daunting because you don’t know what to say?
Don’t have the time to always check your phone and instantly reply to your Tinder match?
I’ve got just what you’re looking for in the next tip.
The best time to message your Tinder match in general
You got bills to pay, laundry to do, groceries to buy, subscribe to my Youtube channel…
That’s okay. While you’d do better with your matches if you replied quickly, you don’t have to.
You can also carve out a few moments of your day and dedicate them solely to texting back your Tinder matches.
So when is the best (general) time to message your Tinder match?
The best time to message your Tinder match in general is when she’s most likely to be available.
After work hours and when she’s probably done with her household chores.
That busy time slot is also confirmed by research from Nielsen. As can be seen in the graph below:
So if you could only use Tinder one time a day, that’s the time I’d recommend you chat between 8 to 10 PM.
You don’t want to text too much. Because if you do, you’ll scare her off.
Watch my 3-minute video and find out if you’re an overtexter:
To guarantee you don’t get this wrong and scare off your Tinder match, I’m going to answer this question:
How quickly should you respond to a girl from Tinder?
Important: The upcoming advice doesn’t just apply to women from Tinder, but EVERY girl that you’re interested in dating.
Unlike what we discussed earlier, this is a little more difficult because it depends on a lot of different factors.
These are just some of the factors you need to constantly juggle inside your head.
That’s why I wrote a whole article about it. Read that and you’ll know all you need to about how quickly you should respond when texting.
This little devil of a question is what started many, MANY texting problems.
Because one too many 90s sitcoms (I forget which one started it) joked that you have to wait up to three days after the first date to show that you aren’t desperate.
Although that was over 30 years ago, many people (including some dating coaches) say that you should wait. Some even say you shouldn’t text until she does.
And here’s the biggest reason why:
Emotions fade quickly.
Even if you made her feel like the most special woman on earth, she’ll forget all about it 72 hours later.
And her feelings will have already shrunk by 50% the morning after the date.
So send her a text and send it quickly! Even if it’s a simple one like this: Tonight was fun. Still laughing about your facemask hamster-hammock joke. Anyway, have a great Sunday
Now for the most important things to remember if you want to see her (again).