When Do Guys Start to Miss You After a Break Up? 20 Signs

One of the clear signs you’ll notice when a guy starts to miss you after a breakup is that he will tell you exactly how he feels. He will express his thoughts through his words. It takes some courage for anyone to say they miss their ex after a breakup. It must have taken hours or weeks of reflection to say it finally.

5 Signs Your Ex Misses You (Even if They Pretend Not To)

3. When you don’t communicate with him (including on social media)

One of the best ways to get him to start thinking about you is to be a little mysterious.

If you’re giving him more space but still frequently “just saying hi” or “checking in” to see how he’s doing, then there is no mystery because he knows what you’re doing — thinking about him.

Remember, there needs to be a vacuum of space that can be filled up with his longing and that goes for all social media communication, too!

I know giving your ex space seems hard and counter intuitive, but leaving them alone is one of the best ways of actually getting them back into your life.

However, you have to do it in a very specific way. You don’t want to simply cut off all communication. You have to talk to your ex’s subconscious and make it seem like you really and truly don’t want to talk to them right now.

Pro tip:

— “You’re right. It’s best that we don’t talk right now, but I would like to be friends eventually.” —

I like it because you’re communicating with them that you don’t really need to talk anymore. In essence, you’re saying that you don’t really need them to play any role in your life anymore.

You induce a “fear of loss” in your ex which will trigger their attraction for you again.

I learned about this text from Brad Browning, who has helped thousands of men and women get their exes back. He goes by the moniker of “the relationship geek”, for good reason.

In this free video, he’ll show you exactly what you can do to make your ex want you again.

No matter what your situation is — or how badly you’ve messed up since the two of you broke up — he’ll give you a number of useful tips that you can apply immediately.

Here’s a link to his free video again. If you really want your ex back, this video will help you do this.

I mentioned the importance of creating mystery above and another way to make him feel intrigued by you — and therefore, potentially miss you — is to try new things that you haven’t before.

What’s something you’ve always wanted to try but haven’t? Rock climbing? Dance lessons? Sky-diving?

Also, if you did something to mess up the relationship, then this is a great way to show that you’re changing for the better.

And yeah, it doesn’t hurt to share a picture or video of you doing this new, amazing thing on social. Though you’re not following him anymore, he may still be lurking on your social media accounts.

When he sees you doing new things, it helps to create curiosity in his mind and keep that mystery and intrigue alive.

When we break up with someone, our natural tendency is to assume that they are going to stay the same. And that’s, let’s be honest, super boring.

Nothing is appealing or desirable about more of the same when you’re breaking up.

But when you start doing new things and meeting new people, it shows your ex that your life will go on with or without them. And sometimes that’s just enough of a wake-up call for an ex to realize that he doesn’t actually want your life to go on and change and morph into something new without him.

When he starts seeing you hang out with people he doesn’t know, it automatically creates a curiosity loop in his head.

Who is that? How did they meet? How long have they been hanging out?

As humans, we have a natural desire to stay curious until the loop is closed.

Plus, meeting new people makes you smile more, and according to a study published in the American Psychological Association journal Emotion, men find women who smile significantly more attractive.

“Women who smile are absolutely very attractive. That was by far the most attractive expression women showed,” Jessica Tracy, a University of British Columbia psychology professor who directed the study, said in an interview.

So meet new people, create curiosity, and have fun while doing it.

Similarly, when your ex sees you flirting with another man, that’s when the jealousy can kick into overdrive.

But here’s the thing about jealousy – making your ex feel jealous and having him want to get back together with you are not the same thing.

April Eldemire, a licensed marriage and family therapist, writes on The Gottman Institute blog that “Jealousy in a relationship can be more about your own vulnerabilities than about your partner’s actions. For instance, you may be prone to jealousy if you’ve had painful experiences in your past.”

If he wants to get back together just because he’s jealous, that’s not a healthy place to enter back into a relationship.

The best place to get back together from is a place where he’s had time to reflect and realize that his life is better with you in it.

So sure, let him feel a little jealous when he sees you flirting with another man, but don’t think it will fix the relationship.

While this article explores the main signs guys start to miss you, it can be helpful to speak to a relationship coach about your situation.

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One of the easiest ways to help make a guy miss you is to make him feel like you’re already moving on by filling up your life with new things that don’t include him.

When he asks if you want to hang out and you genuinely seem like it’s going to be hard to find the time to squeeze him in, then he can see himself getting squeezed out of your life.

He knows he’s either going to have to put in some effort to be a part of your life or watch the door close on his opportunity to be a part of it.

If your ex is saying that he still wants to hang out and see you (and this is very important – actually follows through and asks you to hang out), it’s likely he still wants you in his life in some capacity.

He may be too scared to straight out tell you what he’s feeling, so “Can we still be friends?” is a very safe and easy way to get what he wants without taking the risk of putting himself out there.

Another thing that is attractive to many men is seeing that you care about other people. It shows them that you have a big heart and see the bigger picture beyond your own life and break up.

New research into altruistic behavior and attraction has discovered some genetic evidence altruism may have evolved over time because it was one of the characteristics our ancestors desired in a partner and mate.

“The expansion of the human brain would have greatly increased the cost of raising children, so it would have been important for our ancestors to choose mates both willing and able to be good, long-term parents. Displays of altruism could well have provided accurate clues to this, and so led to a link between human altruism and sexual selection,” Tim Phillips, a psychiatrist at the University of Nottingham and Institute of Psychiatry, says.

Have you considered volunteering at a local organization? Is there a big charity event coming up that you can help with?

Now’s a great time to get out there and start trying new things that will help remind him of your loving and generous side.

Does your ex still want to protect you? Not just from physical harm, but does he make sure you’re protected when any negative situation arises?

Just because you guys aren’t together anymore doesn’t mean that his protective instincts will go away.

Men are naturally protective over women they care about. A study published in the Physiology & Behavior journal shows that male’s testosterone makes them feel protective over her safety and wellbeing.

If you still wants you to to be safe and protected, this is a clear sign that he misses you and wants you back.

There’s actually a fascinating new concept in relationship psychology that’s getting a lot of buzz at the moment. It goes to the heart of why men miss their exes and want to rekindle the relationship.

According to this theory, men derive meaning and satisfaction from life by stepping up to plate for the woman they love. This is deeply rooted in male biology.

I know this might sound a bit silly. In this day and age, women don’t need someone to rescue them. They don’t need a ‘hero’ in their lives.

But here’s the ironic truth. Men do still need to be a hero. Because it’s built into our DNA to seek out relationships that allow us to feel like a protector.

If you would like to learn more about the hero instinct, check out this free online video.

Some ideas are life-changing. And when it comes to rekindling things with your ex and creating a deep and passionate new relationship with him, this is one of them.

Are you getting late-night booty calls? Is he going through a stressful time at work or school?

Men can start missing you when they aren’t feeling great about themselves.

And who can blame him? We’ve all been there where we are feeling down on ourselves and try to reconnect with an ex to make ourselves feel better, feel more attractive, feel more desirable, and feel more carefree.

Todd Baratz, a psychotherapist specializing in relationships and sex, told Elite Daily that missing an ex can be more about missing who you were in the relationship or missing being in a relationship than missing your ex specifically.

Reconnecting from an unstable place where he’s trying to fill an emotional need is very difficult, if not impossible, way to build a healthy relationship moving forward.

So it’s worth asking yourself as well – do you truly miss your ex or how being in a relationship made you feel about you?

Is he texting and calling you in the middle of the day just because? Is he the one checking in “just to see how you’re doing?”

Then that’s a pretty clear cut sign that he’s at least thinking about you, if not, deeply missing you.

When a guy consistently is reaching out to you and during the middle of the day (i..e, there’s absolutely zero chance he has a beer buzz going on) to say hello, then it’s very likely that he genuinely misses you.

Did he text you on your birthday? The birthday text is also a dead giveaway he’s missing you.

Is he reacting to all of your videos, stories and pics? Does he appear to be hanging out in the background of your life – there but not really there?

If your ex is still engaging with you regularly on social then it could be a sign that he’s still trying to communicate even though you’re officially broken up.

Though he may be orbiting you, that doesn’t mean you should automatically do the same. (Remember, you want to be reigning or eliminating your communication with him right now as we discussed above.)

Lisa Breateman, LCSW, a psychotherapist and relationship specialist in New York City explains, “When you’re still liking somebody else’s stuff, you’re staying attached. You’re sending a message that you’re still seeing into the other person’s life.”

And again, right now you want to be creating space between the two of you so there’s enough room for him to miss you.

Another indirect sign that shows he may be missing you is when he asks your friends about how you are doing. The more questions, the more likely it is that he’s missing you.

Like with social though, it doesn’t matter much unless your ex does anything about it.

He may just be trying to feel out your friends to gauge if you’re still interested. If they respond with something like “You should call her,” it may just be the green light he’s looking for.

And there is no bigger curiosity loop that’s created than when your ex sees you with another man.

Who is he? Are they dating or hooking up? What does she like about him? Is it serious?

Yep, we all know there’s nothing like a tinge of jealousy to stir up some feelings of missing your ex.

One study that looked at the mating behaviors of monkeys suggests that jealousy has developed as a function of the brain to promote social bonding and monogamous relationships.

Male monkeys were observed participating in “mate-guarding” when they would physically hold back other male monkeys from talking to their female partner and become physically distressed when separated from their partner.

The study suggests that there are some biological and evolutionary processes at work when it comes to jealousy.

So jealousy is a powerful thing; use it to your advantage. But use it wisely.

If you’re feeling a little adventurous, try this “Jealousy” text.

— “I think it was a great idea that we decided to start dating other people. I do just want to be friends right now!” —

By saying this, you’re telling your ex that you’re actually dating other people right now… which will in turn make them jealous.

You’re communicating to your ex that you’re actually wanted by others. We’re all attracted to people wanted by others. By saying that you’re dating around already, you’re pretty much saying that “it’s your loss!”

After sending this text they’ll begin to feel attraction for you again because of the “fear of loss” I mentioned earlier.

This was another text I learned from Brad Browning, hands down my favorite “get your ex back” online coach.

Here’s a link to his free online video. He gives a number of useful tips that you can apply immediately to get your ex back.

Does your ex keep “coincidently” bumping into you at the gym, your favorite coffee shop, or out at night? If so, it may not be such a coincidence.

Trust me, if a guy wants to avoid you, he 100% knows how to do that.

So if you’re running into him regularly and he seems happy to see you every time, you can pretty much bet he’s at least not actively trying to avoid you.

Whatever the reason you broke up, it’s because something in your relationship wasn’t working.

One of the best ways to get your ex to want to get back with you is by showing him that you’ve grown and changed so the issues that were previously a problem no longer are.

This isn’t something that you can just tell him (i.e., “I’ve changed. Can we get back together now?”).

This is something that he needs to see over time and through your actions and behavior.

When he starts to see a shift and change in you, then that’s where his longing for and desire to be with you can be rekindled.

If your ex is telling you he’s missing you, then he’s for sure missing you. Clearly.

But here’s the thing – it’s up for you to decide if he’s genuinely missing you because he loves, respects and admires you as a person or if he’s just feeling down about himself and is hoping you can make him feel better.

If it’s the first, then that’s the type of missing that can help rekindle a new and improved relationship.

But if it’s the second, then it’s likely only a matter of time before he becomes unhappy again – either with himself or you – and that’s not something your presence in his life is ever going to fix.

So you have to decide if he genuinely misses you as a person or he just misses the way you make him feel about himself. They are two very different things.

If you want your ex to miss you, none of the things mentioned above will be the magic bullet that will get him to miss you.

Because what it ultimately comes down to is that he sees you being the best version of yourself – the one that he fell for initially – and that’s a combination of many of the things mentioned above.

Taking care of yourself. Trying new things. Meeting new people. Caring for other people. Growing as a person. These are things that will remind him of all the reasons he fell for you in the first place.

If he sees that you’re actively being the best version of you that was lacking when you both were together, then that’s what’s going to be the thing that’s going to make him start wondering if you should get back together.

So focus on doing all the things to help YOU live your best life because that ultimately, will make him miss you the most, and most importantly, get you in the right state of mind to decide if you truly want to enter back into the relationship.

Hopefully, by now you have a clear idea about whether your ex is showing signs that he genuinely misses you after your breakup.

But there’s one key question to ask yourself that trumps everything above:

Do you genuinely want to get back together with him?

If the answer is yes, then you need to watch relationship expert Brad Browning’s excellent free video right now.

In fact, it’s for a very specific person: a man or a woman who has experienced a break up and legitimately believes the breakup was a mistake.

Brad Browning has one goal: to help you win back an ex.

As a certified relationship counselor, and with decades of experience helping to repair broken relationships, Brad will give you a foolproof plan to get them back. He reveals the texts you can send and things you can say to him to make him think, “yep, I made a big mistake!”.

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