What to Say to a Girl on Tinder with 30+ Screenshot Examples –

To be fair, Tinder does have a bad rep for people using the platform purely to seek validation. People like the feeling of being wanted, and the dopamine rush of getting a match is the only thing a lot of users are seeking. Not to actually use Tinder for it’s purpose – to go on dates and message matches! Be on the prowl for these attention whores and steer well clear to avoid wasting your time!

You know when you ‘click’ with a girl, and she’ll know too. Developing your conversational skills and knowing what to say to a girl on Tinder will help you make a connection with more of your matches. And it might even lead to them asking YOU out for a date! Like the example above.

The 10 Best Conversation Starters For A Good First Impression On Tinder
  • Ask her about things that aren’t in her bio. …
  • Notice her animal companions. …
  • Show you pay attention to her profile. …
  • Talk about shared common interests. …
  • Use her location to your advantage. …
  • Compliment the scenery in her photos.

Best Tinder Openers in 2020 (Conversation Starter Experiment)

Signs Your Match is Ready to Say YES to a Date

Always assume the girl is into you. It’s better to be bullish on the date text rather than pussy footing around wondering whether or not she likes you, to then miss the boat altogether.

Holding a positive mindset will help keep you from second guessing your judgements.

Even if you ask her out too early, the girl you’re messaging will appreciate the fact you have the balls to at least pop the question.

Remember, she’s swiped right for you… which is a big enough indication in itself to know she likes you!

So now, all that’s left, is to spot the signs she’s comfortable enough with the idea of meeting up with you.

Here are some cues to look out for in the messages she sends you:

If you’re making her smile, laugh, and reply back positively, these are all massive green flags. Especially if she throws in some jokes and banter herself.

However, always pay close attention to the level of investment she puts into her messages.

If you find yourself doing all the leg work – asking questions, putting effort into composing witty replies…and she gives you nothing to work with – she doesn’t ask questions back, or simply replies with just ‘LOL’ or ‘Haha’.

If that’s the case, her ‘LOLs’ and ‘Hahas’ can’t be taken as positive cues that she’s ready for a date.

Here’s an example of that:

When this happens, it’s best to burn these matches and move onto the next.

Take every question she asks as one small step to building rapport and one giant leap to destination date-land.

If your match is asking questions, you’ve safely passed the first test – her impression of you is positive – your pics, bio, and first messages.

Now she’s committed to the conversation and interested in getting to know you. Basically she’s sussing out if you’re date-worthy or not.

Remember the investment scale I mentioned… Always keep it in the back of your mind! If the girl is asking questions, she’s balls-deep invested.

Answer her questions, retain a playfulness with your responses, and if she reacts postively, you’re ready to unleash the date card!

If she’s replying quickly, she’s clearly enthusiastic, enjoying the conversation, and hoping it’ll lead to something.

The best time to ask a girl on a date or exchange numbers, is when you catch her in the right mood.

Strike whilst the irons hot. When she’s buzzed and the happy feeling is strong – it will be easy for her to say “Yes” to a date without giving it too much thought.

Because a girl’s decision to date you is never really based on logic, it’s based on how she FEELS in the moment.

So if she’s messaging fast and noticeably enjoying your chat, then there’s never a better time to pop the date question.

Don’t delay it. Her mood, along with her decision to date you or not, is likely to change if you ask at the wrong time.

If you’re unsure whether NOW is the right time to ask the girl out, you can opt to test the water first.

Plant the bait and see if you get a nibble.

Casually slip the suggestion of a meetup into the conversation, but whilst doing so, follow up with something else as a distraction.

The idea of this tactic is to plant the idea of a date, but as a casual suggestion so it doesn’t force a commited response.

You then test her reply. Whether or not she takes the bait – replies to the casual date suggestion in a positive way or chooses to ignore it.

Here’s an example of the bait slip test in action:

The suggestion of a drink was slipped into the conversation. Notice how it doesn’t force a reply.

I then changed the subject back to more rapport building.

It takes the pressure off of her. She will have noticed the date text but can choose whether or not to reply to it, without the awkwardness of being put on the spot.

If she ignores the bait, and instead chooses to talk about what she does to ‘keep herself busy’, with no mention of the drink suggestion – this is your cue to wait it out a bit longer, she’s not comfortable with the idea of going on a date yet.

However, if she positively picks up on the fact you mentioned drinks, then it’s a green light!

How to Ask a Girl Out / Exchange Numbers on Tinder

When you feel like your matches’ interest is peaking, it’s time to move things off Tinder – get her number, FaceBook, or ultimately a meetup.

Lucky for you, because if you’ve picked up on any of the signals mentioned above, you’ll know she’s keen and ready to hand over her digits. The transition to getting a date will be as smooth as James Bond ordering a dry martini.

But how you phrase the date text is VERY important…and there are a number of ways you can still screw up with this despite her giving you all the positive signs she wants to date you.

The Dating Message Don’ts:

First let’s cover how to message a girl on Tinder the wrong way. Here are things to avoid when asking a girl out:

It’s always best to let the date suggestion flow from a fluid conversation. Whilst you’re texting her live – rapid back and forth messaging.

Don’t randomly message her out of the blue when there’s been gaping black hole from when the conversation was last active. We’re talking like 4+ hours of no coms. Always let it lead from a fast flowing conversation.

With this girl, I didn’t get back to her for 12 hours:

The same goes for escalating too quick. If all you’ve got is a reply to your first message, don’t come in hot blooded and slap down the date invite!

You’ve gotta warm up your matches and get to know them first.

Avoid phrasing your date invite like any of the following:

“Do you want to get a drink sometime?” “When are you free?” or “What time are you free?” “Where you wanna meet for coffee?” “Can I get your number?”

If you phrase your date texts like this, you’re just spoon feeding her the power. It’s now all on her terms. She can say YES or NO, or choose a night which might be inconvenient for you.

You’re effectively letting her wear the trousers from the get go.

When setting up the date, your match is looking for you to lead and be assertive. She wants you to be the man and make the decisions – choosing the venue, activities, and time of date.

Don’t give her the uneccessary stress of having to choose; a restaurant, a time to meet, or a night she’s free.

“I’m free Mon–Fri nights, oh and Saturday and Sunday”

Never appear like you’re too available (even if you are). Otherwise your matches will assume your free time predominantly involves watching Netflix or playing World of Warcraft in your secret bunker.

Instead, you want to ‘fit her in’ to your busy schedule.

Women like a busy man. Someone who puts there life goals and work first, and dating second. Think – Tony Stark, and Bruce Wayne:

Here are some good examples of what to say to a girl on Tinder for arranging the time of the date:

“Im pretty busy this week, but should be free Thursday night”

“Let’s do next Wednesday if you’re free then, otherwise we’ll postpone to the following week.”

“I’m free either Tuesday night or Friday night. Pick wisely ;)”

In the next example, I was messaging this girl on a Monday night, and let her know I wasn’t available until Saturday earliest:

If your match isn’t available the night you suggest, try not to panic and backtrack by replying with “actually I’m also free Friday and Saturday too…”

Stick to your guns. If she wants to date you, she will make time for you. Wait it out and book her in next week instead.

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