What Are the Bases Of Love? (5 Bases Of Love)

Generally, here is how most people define the four bases:
  • First Base: Kissing. …
  • Second Base: Touching and Fondling. …
  • Third Base: Below-The-Waist Stimulation. …
  • Home Run: Sexual Intercourse. …
  • Respect. …
  • Consent. …
  • Intimacy. …
  • Lust and infatuation.

The Four Bases in Dating and What They Mean

1. First base: the kissing stage

When you first meet a guy, you check him out for the major qualities that attract you to a guy. If he checks out, you accept a date. You go on the date to get to know him better. Both of you have good food, good wine, and great scenery as a bonus.

If you’re lucky enough, he will be a good conversationalist who wont bore you to death with too much or too few stories. If there is a good flow of humor too, it wouldn’t take long for the sparks to start flying.

Whether you’re particular about good looks or general appeal, if you like him, you will want to prolong the date. But, every good thing comes to an end, and it’s time to go home. All these processes are part of the first base, but incomplete without a kissing gesture.

If he made a good impression on you, you will probably be looking forward to the kissing part. If he likes you too, his body language can give him away. You don’t need to feel rushed to swap spots with someone you’re still getting to know. You can start with mild kissing after the first meeting or allow a little tongue during the second one.

There might be sexual arousal but you need not feel compelled to engage in any serious sexual activity with him yet.

2. Second base: the making out stage

If you had a good kiss during the first date, you’d probably want to come back for more, especially if you like other aspects of the kisser. The second base is where both of you have a first glimpse and feel of each other’s bodies. You might not take your clothes off, but there will be clothes-raising, unhooked bra straps, and maybe even lowering of zippers.

There will be intense kissing, fondling breasts and nipples, and basically, heavy making out. If you’re not comfortable with the guy, you wouldn’t go this far. Also, you should have learned a bit more about him before reaching this phase because you’re already investing your emotions and time.

If you consider him super sexy and he thinks the same thing of you, you’ll most likely move to the next baseball stage which is the third base and much more intimate. If you have doubts about him, or there’s just something about him that’s not doing it for you, end the whole thing there.

3. Third base: oral sex stage

After the first or second base, you already know if you are going to go all the way with this guy or not. At this point, you’d have gone from merely French kissing to thinking about penetrative sex. Three strikes in his favor (three dates) means you like him.

However, you want to explore all the ways that both of you are sexually compatible, especially if you want to know if he’s a good lover or not.

Oral stimulation is a good place to continue if you aren’t still sure about him, even though it is a highly intimate activity too. You can guess a man’s generosity in the bed by the level of attention he pays your body during oral sex. If he takes his time pleasing you, you can be sure that penetration with him will be just as good.

Oral sex is an intimate moment between two people who trust each other and have hit it off. As such, if you don’t trust him to be clean for instance, you have no business putting your mouth on him, or him on you.

No matter how much all your nerve endings are in tune with him, practice safety first, then you can get down and dirty all you want.

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