the self summary : OkCupid

OkCupid Profile “About Me” #1: My Self-summary

This OkCupid profile option is so general that it can feel daunting to come up with an original and interesting way to summarize yourself. Our favorite go-to is to list three favorite things — foods, hobbies, movies — whatever you’re passionate about.

  1. “What I’m doing with my life”
  2. “I’m really good at”
  3. “The first thing people notice about me”
  4. “Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food”
  5. “The six things I could never do without”
  6. “I spend a lot of time thinking about”
  7. “On a typical Friday night I am”


the self summary : OkCupid

People usually write their profile with adjectives like “Im funny/smart/quirky” etc thinking theyve described themselves well. However, after reading a block of text like that what have you learned about them? Not much except how they view themselves and that it all sounds generic because their essence has been watered down to a few adjectives :/ You dont really know how theyre funny or what makes them smart. And what does quirky mean to that person? Backup adjectives with examples!

Ex: [lazy/pessimistic] I like to spend my days relaxing in the comfort of my home, passing my time watching movies or maybe at the beach catching some sunshine. I believe that the world is an uncertain place that can turn ugly at a moments notice so I like to spend as much time as I can enjoying it.

A note about the tone of your writing. Dont EVER say anything like “Im not good at this/ I hate my job/ sorry that Im not very outgoing etc…” This type of writing repels because unconsciously youre saying youre not confident. Self deprecating humor is hard to pull off in text so keep things positive! So even if you might have a “negative” personality trait you can always write about it in a positive way.

Having trouble getting people to look at your profile? Words just dont seem to describe you well enough? Well keep reading as I highlight the most common red flags people routinely write in their profile thats driving everyone away! Ill also show you how to make your profile shine amongst the rest and start attracting people.

The reason you write your summary with examples is because they act as proof to what youre saying. It also forms a strong of you in a strangers mind, like they can picture you through your writing. Spend some time thinking if you need to, open up a word document and type away as things come to you.

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