Why Men Stop Talking with You After Sex
she stopped texting me after we slept together?
The 3-Day Rule. This unspoken rule says you must wait approximately three days after a first date before you contact someone again. People follow this rule because they don’t want to come off as desperate or too interested. Often, people feel uneasy if the level of desire isn’t equal in a relationship.
Why Did He Stop Talking To Me After We Slept Together?
Every man has his reasons for behaving in this manner.
Nevertheless, it’s unlikely that he has been in a plane accident or lost your number – even though I’m pretty sure these are the things you would rather believe in.
But, let’s be a little more realistic. Here are the possible reasons why a guy has ghosted you after spending the night with you.
Sometimes, the answer to all of this is not hidden in mystery. You won’t find it under some deep layers of secrets as you hope to.
Sadly, sometimes, the answer is actually the most obvious one: he didn’t like whatever happened last night. Of course, this doesn’t mean that you’re lousy in bed.
In fact, there doesn’t exist anyone who is good or bad in bed. There only exist couples who are compatible and those who are not.
According to this guy, you two are a part of the second group. So, let’s be real: did you really enjoy sleeping with him? Was the intercourse really mind-blowing?
Before giving an answer to this question, do your best to shut off your emotions. Did you feel all of those fireworks simply because you finally got a hold of a man you’ve been so crazy about?
Let’s talk about the intimate part here only. Was it really that good? Or, are you deep down also aware of the fact that you two are not a good match?
Look, don’t get me wrong, I’m not trying to justify his move. First of all, this is not a reason to ditch someone, let alone to stop talking to them without a decent explanation.
Secondly, he was dead wrong not to know that there is always room for improvement. Maybe the two of you were nervous or just didn’t click right away.
But, that doesn’t mean that your physical connection wouldn’t change with time. You know what they say: practice makes perfect.
Nevertheless, let’s take another possibility into consideration: maybe this guy is embarrassed about his performance last night.
You probably didn’t notice it (because, again, you are so crazy about him), but it is likely that he failed to please you or that he let down your expectations.
In that case, he can’t look at you in the eyes. His ego is crushed, and he thinks that the best option is to run for his life in order to forget awkwardness and discomfort.
He made you fall for him without the intention of catching you
The good old scenario. Or, should I say, the bad old scenario? Either way, there is nothing weird about a guy distancing himself after being intimate with a girl.
Unfortunately, almost every woman in the world has found herself in a situation to tell this infamous sentence: “He stopped texting me after we slept together”, followed by the questions: “Did he use me? Was I nothing but a one-night stand he forgot about the next morning?”
What is even sadder is that, in most cases, they are right. It’s nothing strange for a guy to lose interest after getting in a girl’s pants.
I don’t care how evolved our society is; men still think that sleeping with a girl and never calling her back makes them big studs and players.
On the other hand, the girl in question is left behind in tears, taken advantage of. After all, it was her job to keep her man interested even after being intimate with him.
This sucks, I won’t lie to you. You two had a great time and you don’t regret sleeping with him – that shouldn’t be argued about.
But, what hurts you the most is that clearly, this guy lied all along just to get into your pants.
Maybe he didn’t lovebomb you or promise you the world, but he definitely did make you think that he is committed to your relationship.
He managed to get under your skin – exactly as planned. And then, what happened?
He got what he wanted, and poof, he turned his back on you and never appeared in your life again. It’s hard to admit this, but he treated you as an object, not as a human being with feelings.
Well, that doesn’t make him a real man. Instead, it means he is an immature boy with one thing and one thing only on his mind.
Even though this type of woman is rare, there exist girls who don’t complain after pronouncing the sentence, “He stopped calling me after we slept together”.
In fact, they feel relieved because that is exactly what they also wanted all along.
As much as you hate modern dating, the truth is that casual affairs and one-night stands have been normalized for a long time.
There is nothing strange about two one-night standers hooking up, sleeping together without any promises made, and in the end, parting their ways.
Not only that: there is nothing wrong with this either. What is wrong is if one person is up for this kind of agreement while the other has a different scenario in mind.
In this case, you were the one who had dreams about this relationship. Well, you at least expected a call or a text message from him the next day.
While I have no intention of justifying him, let’s look at things from a different perspective.
Were you clear about your expectations from the start? Were you honest about the fact that you were catching feelings for this guy?
I think not. In fact, I can bet on my life that you played hard to get all along. To be precise, you acted pretty heartlessly: like you couldn’t care less about the outcome of this situation.
No, I’m not here to judge you. You didn’t do it because you didn’t give a damn about him.
Instead, you realized that all of this time, he has been entirely indifferent. So, you had a choice: you would either admit you have high hopes for this relationship or you would play along.
Of course, you could have just walked away on time, but we all know you didn’t see that as an option. On the other hand, you knew that putting your heart on your sleeve would equal humiliation.
You didn’t want to boost his ego by showing him that you were falling in love. You didn’t want to initiate anything serious with a man who clearly sees you as nothing more than a random hookup.
At the end of the day, what happened? Did he magically change his perspective after you two slept together?
Or, did he remain consistent? Well, obviously – the second scenario took place. I hate to break it to you, but it’s too late for you to complain now, and it’s also in vain.
Let’s face it – this man thought you two had a mutual agreement. He was certain that you wanted the same thing, so now, he doesn’t think he’s done anything remotely wrong.