Last and, probably, hardest to hear. She doesn’t think there’s any point or potential and that’s the real reason why she won’t text you first. If you’ve been seeing each other for a while and she never texts you first, it’ll be hard to deny that maybe she’s not as invested.
12 Reasons why she never texts first but responds when you do
She never texts you first because she’s not much of a texter.
“Dis me.” Like seriously, I am not a lover of text messaging. I do enough typewriting in a day to last me a lifetime. I would much rather a phone call than a text. Even if it’s just a quick phone call I would appreciate it a million times more than two word, constant messaging. It’s distracting for me. It completely throws me off balance. I forget about texts and then I end up looking like an asshole because I never reply or worse I reply a couple days later. What can I say? Texting just isn’t in my love ‘language’.
It’s not you, it’s me. I’m still trying to figure out how to chase my dreams full time, balance my emotions, raise my daughter, and maintain the other priorities in my life. It just isn’t easy for me to stop everything I’m doing to send you a text. As I’m writing this out, I realize that I may sound like a bit of an asshole, but it’s the honest truth from my end.
She never texts you first because she’s used to you texting her first.
So, I mentioned being busy. There are some men who have been interested in me who respect and understand that, so they never complain about texting me first. In fact, they usually say something along the lines of “I know you’re busy, but I just wanted to let you know you’re on my mind.” It’s sweet, it’s not overbearing, and it excuses the fact that I may not have had a chance to text him before he found an opportunity to text me. Be the bigger person.
She never texts you first because she doesn’t want to bother you.
Again, with being a busy person, you gain respect for people’s daily schedule and priorities. She may not text you first thing in the morning or during the busy hours of the day because she doesn’t want to bother you. She wants to give you time to handle your business. There is no love lost in a late text as long as it comes with genuine, fruitful conversation and a sweet compliment. Don’t forget that.