I [25F] have developed a huge crush on my neighbor [30sM] and I’m not sure how (or if) I should proceed. : relationships

I feel kind of silly posting this but I could use some advice. I moved into an apartment about 3 months ago. Its a “rowhome” apartment and my apartment is the top 2 floors of the house. Craig, as we will call him, lives on the bottom floor and has for several years. I dont know his exact age but he is in his early 30s.

When I was moving in, the only help I had was my older brother and moving furniture up 2 flights of stairs sucks major ass. Craig happened to be home the day I moved in and introduced himself and graciously offered to help. I am not exaggerating when I say he looks like a movie star. I was honestly floored when I met him and felt like a nervous teenager.

So, in the past few months Ive crossed paths with him fairly often, typically every few days. Weve made small talk, hes asked how I like the apartment and what I do for a living etc. We share a back yard but Ive never seen him out there until last weekend. He has a fire pit in the yard and had a few friends over. I went to take the garbage out to the alley behind the house and he invited me to hang out with them. I wasnt doing anything (Im pretty lame and boring) so I joined them. His friends were nice, we all had a few beers and just sat around the fire talking. I felt welcomed. Through the groups conversation, I learned that Craig went through a divorce about a year ago. His friends were telling him he should “get back out there” in the dating world. It started to get late and eventually it was just Craig and I sitting outside. I kept thinking maybe I should say goodnight and let him go inside since all of his friends left, but we were a little tipsy and having great conversations (we are both teachers – so we connected over that and shared some funny stories). We connected on a lot of things, mostly our mutual love of specific books and music. Eventually I decided to call it a night and go upstairs, thanking him for inviting me. He said I was always welcome and gave me a hug goodnight.

When I was upstairs trying to fall asleep, all I could think about was how he was just downstairs and I couldnt stop wondering if he was thinking about me too. I got out of a long relationship about 6 months ago and this is the first “crush” Ive had.. I know it sounds lame but I feel like a teenager. Hoping to run into him every time I leave the apartment or go to get the mail.

I felt a spark… I think he mightve but I guess I cant be sure. Ive run into him a few times since and our interactions are always friendly and smiley. I like this guy and I want to make a move somehow.. or maybe ask him to hang out or go get a drink.. but Im worried about the neighbor factor. Ive never been in this situation. Maybe Im thinking too far ahead, but what if he rejected my advance and things got awkward? What if we started dating and it didnt work out? I love this apartment and dont want any neighbor awkwardness.

I guess my question is… wtf should I do?! Based on our interactions so far, I think he would be receptive to spending more time together… but am I crossing into dangerous territory here? Should I chalk this up to just a crush and try to forget about it, or should I make a move? And if so… how? Sorry for the wall of text but any insight will be appreciated!

What do you do if you’re crushing on your neighbor? Tell them how you feel. It may feel a little risky, but it’s best to let your neighbor know how you feel. Don’t be too pushy when you confess; instead, bring up your feelings in a gentle, subtle way.

I Have A Crush on My Neighbor

I [25F] have developed a huge crush on my neighbor [30sM] and I’m not sure how (or if) I should proceed. : relationships

I feel kind of silly posting this but I could use some advice. I moved into an apartment about 3 months ago. Its a “rowhome” apartment and my apartment is the top 2 floors of the house. Craig, as we will call him, lives on the bottom floor and has for several years. I dont know his exact age but he is in his early 30s.

When I was upstairs trying to fall asleep, all I could think about was how he was just downstairs and I couldnt stop wondering if he was thinking about me too. I got out of a long relationship about 6 months ago and this is the first “crush” Ive had.. I know it sounds lame but I feel like a teenager. Hoping to run into him every time I leave the apartment or go to get the mail.

I guess my question is… wtf should I do?! Based on our interactions so far, I think he would be receptive to spending more time together… but am I crossing into dangerous territory here? Should I chalk this up to just a crush and try to forget about it, or should I make a move? And if so… how? Sorry for the wall of text but any insight will be appreciated!

When I was moving in, the only help I had was my older brother and moving furniture up 2 flights of stairs sucks major ass. Craig happened to be home the day I moved in and introduced himself and graciously offered to help. I am not exaggerating when I say he looks like a movie star. I was honestly floored when I met him and felt like a nervous teenager.

So, in the past few months Ive crossed paths with him fairly often, typically every few days. Weve made small talk, hes asked how I like the apartment and what I do for a living etc. We share a back yard but Ive never seen him out there until last weekend. He has a fire pit in the yard and had a few friends over. I went to take the garbage out to the alley behind the house and he invited me to hang out with them. I wasnt doing anything (Im pretty lame and boring) so I joined them. His friends were nice, we all had a few beers and just sat around the fire talking. I felt welcomed. Through the groups conversation, I learned that Craig went through a divorce about a year ago. His friends were telling him he should “get back out there” in the dating world. It started to get late and eventually it was just Craig and I sitting outside. I kept thinking maybe I should say goodnight and let him go inside since all of his friends left, but we were a little tipsy and having great conversations (we are both teachers – so we connected over that and shared some funny stories). We connected on a lot of things, mostly our mutual love of specific books and music. Eventually I decided to call it a night and go upstairs, thanking him for inviting me. He said I was always welcome and gave me a hug goodnight.

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