How to Use Tinder for Hooking Up (and More)

Culturally, Tinder is known as a hook up app and it’s really just that, DO NOT EXPECT TO FIND LOVE.” Since its inception in 2012, Tinder has been known as a hookup app, but this may be changing. Like Bumble, some users have met spouses or long-term partners on the app, while others use it strictly for casual flings.

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Struggling to Get Matches on Tinder? Here’s What You Need to Know

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Tinder has become the go-to app for people looking to date, hookup, find a long-term relationship, or simply see what kind of interesting singles might be in their area.

Thanks to the ubiquity of smartphones, online dating sites have been waning in favor of dating apps for some time now, and Tinder has cornered a massive portion of the dating app market.

For many young people, the very name of the brand and its functions have become synonymous with dating – you’re likely to hear young singles saying “I’m back on Tinder again!” as a shorthand for their relationship status, and “I’d swipe right!” used as a widely-understood idiom for finding someone attractive.

Yes, Tinder is an always-available, pocket-sized method for finding the person of your dreams – or, at the very least, a regret-free hookup – but the app can be frustrating when you don’t completely understand its functionality. To ensure you get the most out of your experience, we’ve compiled a comprehensive guide to dating with Tinder.

Here’s everything you need to know, from how to use Tinder to how to get matches, and how to move from the app to the real world:

The first question on the minds of plenty of guys is, “Does this thing even work!?” The answer is clear: Yes, it does, but that depends on a few key components entirely under your control. That includes your profile, swiping strategy and messaging technique, as well as first clarifying what you even mean by “work.” Lets take a closer look at how people use Tinder for different outcomes before moving on to some tips for getting matches:

There is some confusion about what Tinder is even for. Is it for serious dating, or just for casual hook ups? The short answer is both: You can use Tinder for a variety of reasons, varying from making friends to something casual to dating with the intention of finding your forever person. While Tinder started life as a hookup app, its no longer appropriate to assume that everyone who is using it is looking for sex — some really are just looking to extend their social network.

If Tinder is used for so many different purposes, how can you tell whether the person in your match list are looking for friendship, hook ups or serious dating? Well, there are a few key signs and phrases. For example, if you see the phrase “no ONS” on Tinder, that stands for “no one-night stands,” and means that person is unlikely to be interested in casual sex. The same goes for phrases like “no hook ups,” “seeking something serious or long-term” and “no players” — anything along these lines will indicate something more serious. Equally, someone hinting at casual sex or a one-night stand will probably use wording like “no strings” or “casual fun only,” or less explicitly, with phrases like “only here for a good time.”

You can use Tinder for any of the above reasons, but it pays to be clear with yourself and everyone else; if you know exactly what youre looking for, youll have a better chance of finding it. If youre not looking for anything more than hooking up, you should make that clear, ideally in your bio (“not looking for anything serious,” “seeking hook ups”) or at least once you start chatting to your matches (more on that below). If youre looking to date seriously, that should also be immediately evident to anyone interacting with you.

Once youre clear about what you want and youve made sure everyone else is, youre going to need to craft the perfect profile to maximize your chance of getting matches:

If you’re one of the few remaining singles on Earth still unexperienced with Tinder, the first step is to create the best possible profile with the best possible pictures. Yes, Tinder is largely a looks-based endeavor (most dating apps are) and can sometimes feel superficial for that reason, but remember: Its not really any different to meeting someone at a party or bar. You tend to approach the people you find physically attractive in real life, and then talk to them to see if theres a deeper connection, right? Its the same story with Tinder. Make sure that you’re creating an excellent first impression by following these Tinder photo tips:

Its important to use a flattering (but not misleading) picture of yourself in your profile, and starting with a clear, well-composed, smiling is your best bet. Make sure that your leading pic is a solo shot without other people in it — you dont want potential matches to fall in love with your best friend.

Helpfully, Tinder has a “smart photo” function which continually tests the success rate of the photos you’ve uploaded to your profile, and automatically shows your best-performing photo to other users first. It’s well worth enabling this function as it doesn’t cost anything extra, and Tinder claims that it boosts right swipes by 12 percent. Like it or not, choosing the right Tinder pictures is the key to your online dating success.

Ideally, you want to take advantage of all the photo slots Tinder offers you to provide as much information as possible to potential matches. Consider that your pictures give away crucial information not just about what you look like, but also how you like to spend your time, matches are going to form a certain impression of you depending on whether youre squatting in the gym, splayed out on a beach with friends or chugging back beer at the game.

Don’t partake in kittenfishing – the lite version of catfishing – by uploading misleadingly flattering photos, and make sure your s are recent enough to show what you look like now. Remember, there’s no point in being dishonest. It’s all going to come out in the wash when you meet a match IRL, so be upfront from the start. If youre really having trouble selecting photos, you could consider linking your profile to your Instagram account.

Your bio is optional, but we highly recommended including one. You’re allowed up to 500 words to showcase your dazzling personality here, but we’d suggest you err on the side of relative brevity as online daters dont want to read a novel while they’re swiping. Make your bio about you, and keep it short, simple and friendly — its a bonus if its funny, but you dont want to come across as trying too hard, either.

Depending on how much money youre willing to spend, Tinder has several useful options to maximize your chance of getting matches. The Boost function can help for accumulating matches as it pushes you to the front of the match line for people in your area for half an hour. After the Boost session is over, you will see stats on how much more exposure your profile got (4x, 8x, etc), to ensure you got your moneys worth. Of course, you have to pay for the privilege, and free users cannot dictate where in the queue their profiles appear.

One potential pitfall of Tinder is that swiping becomes so reflexive that it is easy to accidentally swipe left on someone because you’re going too fast. In those cases, Tinder’s Rewind function is invaluable — hand over a few bucks, and you can recover the person of your dreams that you accidentally swiped left on (free users will simply need to slow down and pay attention to what they’re doing).

If you’re willing to pay for Tinder’s subscription services, Tinder Plus or Tinder Gold, you can unlock the Passport function, which allows you to swipe in different cities and countries. So, for example, you could be in London but visiting New York in a week’s time, and Passport will let you start swiping on New York-based profiles from across the pond.

However, even if you’re not willing to pay to use Tinder, there are some swiping strategies that are available to you. One is to use the Super Like function, which tells a user you really like them, bringing you to the front of their queue (free users get one Super Like per day). Another is to bear in mind that those whove already swiped right on you are likely to show up near the beginning of your queue, so it’s worth paying careful attention to profiles that appear early in your swiping session. That being said, constantly right-swiping to game the system is a bad idea as it just means youll match with those you may not be interested in. Swipe right only on people you genuinely hope to match with, so that when you see that coveted, “Congratulations! Its a match!” alert, it actually means something.

Tinder has now introduced a “Tinder Plus” option: A paid version of the app which gives you various benefits — at a cost, of course.

So, what are the advantages to Tinder Plus that make it worth all that extra money? Here are some of the touted benefits:

One coveted benefit of Tinder Plus is the ability to match with users around the world, as opposed to just in your area. So, if you live in California but have an upcoming holiday in Paris, for example, you can start swiping in Paris and accumulating matches before you even arrive. Tinder is truly a global dating service.

Another prized feature of Tinder Plus is the ability to rewind your last swipe. This means that if you accidentally swipe left on a user and instantly regret it (because youre swiping too fast, perhaps), you can “rewind” the swipe, bringing that user back into view so that you can correct your mistake and swipe right instead.

Tinder Plus also allows you to send more Super Likes. Hit the blue star instead of the green check mark and you will show up near the beginning of this specific Tinder users queue with a notification that you used your Super Like. The Super Like helps you show a potential match that you are definitely interested, and it will guarantee that you are made visible without a guarantee that theyll swipe right on you (sorry, but no Tinder feature can force a right swipe or guarantee a match!)

Tinder Plus users get five Super Likes per day compared to the sole daily Super Like allotted to regular users.

Tinder Plus users get one free “boost” a week, which means that Tinder will make you the top profile in your area for 30 minutes. Ordinary Tinder users can also pay for individual boosts via the app at a rate that changes depending on how many boosts you buy. This is a way to potentially get more matches by making you much more visible to other users, but again, its no guarantee, so spend wisely.

Tinder Plus users wont see ads. This is perhaps the least tempting of Tinder Plus range of benefits as ads are a relatively minor annoyance for regular users, but it still doesnt hurt.

To assist users in their dating lives, Tinder has launched a lifestyle website, Swipe Life, a resource where singles can visit for advice when navigating dating in the digital space. The website offers date ideas, dating stories, the best restaurants and bars for dates in different cities and a whole bunch of fun and playful content catering to the general Tinder users.

So is everything crystal clear? We wont blame you if all of the above sounds pretty confusing, as Tinder is becoming ever more complicated and laden with new features. While you should be able to understand the basic mechanics of using the app now, there are still some common questions on peoples minds when it comes to using Tinder:

One question on the minds of many men is the permanence of the left swipe. If Im not interested in someone and swipe left, does this mean I cant change my mind at a later point?

The short answer is yes: Once you swipe left on someone, they are gone and will not return to your queue. However, there are two caveats. The first is that Tinder Plus users can rewind swipes, as mentioned above, so if you think you accidentally swiped left on your soulmate, youre going to need to shell out some cash for the ability to rewind.

The second is that Tinder is still a bit buggy, and from time to time users have reported seeing left-swiped users popping back up into their queue. Its also possible to delete your account and start again with a fresh account, meaning that you will have a chance of seeing someone you swiped left on once again. However, these are not rock solid options, and theres no guaranteed way to revisit a left-swiped user — unless you have Tinder Plus, that is.

A Tinder user will not be notified or otherwise alerted if you swipe left on them, meaning that you dont need to feel too worried about hurting someones feelings. Obviously, if someone swipes right on you and you arent a match, theyll know that you havent swiped right, but this could be for a variety of reasons: Either you havent seen their profile yet, or you are not a frequent user of the app, or you have indeed swiped left for a variety of potential reasons.

How Do You Know If Someone Swiped Right on You?

The only way that you can tell for sure if someone has swiped right on you is to swipe right on them, too. However, well let you in on a secret: People whove already swiped right on you are likely to show up near the beginning of your queue, so it could be worth paying careful attention to them as you are likelier to be a match.

There is no set answer for how long it takes to get matches on Tinder. In fact, theres no rock solid guarantee you will get matches at all. However, if you have a strong profile and sound swiping strategy, you could theoretically be getting matches as soon as you start swiping, though for most people, it will take from a few hours to a few days to start seeing results.

Tinder matches and any associated messages will remain until either you or your match deletes their Tinder account. Tinder users also have the option of “unmatching” users, which means that even if you become a match, either one of you can change your mind and unmatch the other. Otherwise, Tinder matches hang around until you decide to finally strike up a conversation, unlike other apps such as Bumble which instill a time limitation.

If you have been using Tinder for a while and still dont have any matches, youll need to reevaluate your profile. Check out the profile section above, and perhaps even consult a friend or two who could help make your profile more attractive and appealing.

Its perfectly possible to see someone you know appearing on your queue on Tinder. If one of your friends or coworkers lives in your area and happens to be on Tinder with the same age and gender parameters as you, they may well appear in your queue, and vice versa. Thats just how social media works, folks!

Some people find the prospect of being seen on Tinder slightly embarrassing, but theres really no reason to. Its a hugely popular dating app and people use it for a variety of different reasons, plus your friend or coworker is also a user! If you see someone you know, you could swipe right and have a laugh about it if you match, or else just swipe left and forget about it.

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