How to Tell If a Guy Likes You At Work: 17 Subtle Signs He’s Into You

The signs a coworker likes you are similar to signs a guy likes you in general, with the caveat that he may hesitate to act on his feelings, or he may be less clear about his feelings because you’re coworkers and he doesn’t know where you stand and doesn’t want to make things awkward or uncomfortable.

26 Signs a Shy Guy Likes You
  • He creates opportunities to be around you. …
  • His body language gives him away. …
  • He listens intently. …
  • He gets nervous around you. …
  • He throws you secret glances. …
  • He touches you lightly. …
  • He stutters when he talks to you. …
  • He likes all of your posts on social media.

How to Tell if a Guy Likes You At Work – 9 Telltale Signs He’s Into You

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This is a classic tell that a guy likes you. When a man is attracted to you, he can’t keep his eyes off of you.

Do you catch him looking at you during meetings or in the break room? Does he make eye contact with you more than usual? Longer than usual eye contact can be a very intimate thing, and it’s a way of almost touching you without actually touching you.

Pay attention to how much he’s focusing on you in general. For instance, it would be totally normal for him to be looking at you if you’re giving a presentation or you’re the one talking, but if someone else is talking and he’s still looking at you, it means he finds you more interesting than anything else in the room.

signs a shy guy likes you at work

If he’s chatting up everyone in the office, he’s probably just a social butterfly. But if he talks to you way more than anyone else, he’s showing signs of being interested.

Does he make a point of coming by your desk or standing next to you a lot to chat with you each day? Or maybe he sends you regular notes online via a work messaging service or email about things that aren’t work-related? If he’s making chit-chat, then he’s showing signs his interest in you goes beyond work matters.

Does he sit next to you in meetings? When everyone goes to lunch or happy hour, does he make a point of grabbing a seat next to you?

When a man likes a woman, he feels a magnetic pull toward her. He’ll just always want to be where she is. If he’s really into you, he’ll feel amazing in your presence, like an electric charge is running through him.

If he wants to know you more, he’ll spend as much time as he can in your presence. He’ll want to see you and talk with you and just be near you.

If a guy likes a girl, the first thing he’ll want to know is if she’s single.

He’ll find subtle and not-so-subtle ways to figure out if there’s a man in your life. “Does your boyfriend mind when you work such late hours?… oh, you’re single?” (insert of him with eyes lighting up!)

Never mistake this for typical office chit-chat—it’s veering into the personal and it’s a clear attempt to figure out your relationship status.

Remember, there is already an inherent risk involved in pursuing a woman he works with, let alone a woman he works with who’s married or has a boyfriend! He’ll want to make sure the light is extra green before making a move on a coworker by ensuring she’s at least single and available.

5. He asks you things he doesn’t necessarily need to ask

He comes up with any excuse to ask you a question, even if there are plenty of people in the office much better suited to answer it.

Does he ask your opinion about topics that aren’t technically in your lane? Does he ask you for updates about things that he should already know about from emails, like details on office parties or projects? If so, he’s basically just finding any excuse to talk to you.

signs a shy guy likes you at work

He’s always finding little ways to help you out, whether it’s making photocopies for you, covering a shift, grabbing you a coffee when he makes a run, or spotting you for lunch when you forget your wallet.

If he’s offering to help you out in any way he can, and this happens a lot, he’s more invested than a simple coworker.

7. He always invites you to after-work outings, or checks to make sure you’ll be there

If he’s interested, he’s going to want to spend time with you outside of the office, and a work outing like a happy hour or holiday party or lunch is the perfect low-key, low-risk way to do this.

He might not be interested in going if you won’t be there, so if he’s into you he’ll check in advance to make sure you’re going, and he might even offer to save you a seat to make sure you get some one-on-one time together.

This is one of the most obvious but still subtle signs a coworker is into you. Seeing you at work outings represents a chance to talk about something other than work, have a drink, and loosen up a little, and he’ll want to take advantage of the opportunity.

Your relationship goes beyond workplace banter. If he moves from talking about work projects or complaining about the boss to talking with you about his personal life, this is a sign he’s interested in more than a working relationship.

A guy sharing and opening up is a big sign he likes you. This doesn’t mean he’ll ultimately want a relationship, or that he’ll end up wanting to take the risks inherent in dating a co-worker, but it means that he does have feelings for you … what he decides to do with them is another matter.

If a man opens up to you about his ambitions at work and his career plans and goals, even though that’s work-related it’s also a very good sign that he’s into you. For men, opening up about their ambitions can be an intimate and personal thing, and he may be feeling you out to see how supportive you are, or he may be trying to impress you. That’s not something a typical coworker will try to do!

He may not directly flirt with you, but he’ll joke around and he’ll want to make you laugh. Guys love making you laugh. This can be a form of showing off for you or preening, and it’s fun. If he’s the “class clown” and he’s being silly to the whole office that’s one thing, but if he’s directing all of his energy into trying to make you laugh, it’s a sure sign he’s into you.

You may even have some inside jokes, just the two of you, and may even have nicknames for each other. These are ways he can playfully tease you and create a form of intimacy with you without crossing over the line.

signs a shy guy likes you at work

If you need to talk to him, he puts his phone away, stops what he’s doing, and focuses on you exclusively.

If you need last-minute help on a project, he’ll set aside what he was working on to give you a hand.

If you’re stressed out or upset about something, he’ll take a break and get a cup of coffee with you.

If you feel like he makes you a priority and is fully there when you need him, this is going above and beyond and is not the normal behavior of a co-worker, and it’s a good sign he’s interested in you.

A major sign a guy likes a girl is that he remembers what she tells him, even the most inane details.

If you talk to him about a work project he has nothing to do with and he remembers all the finer details weeks later, it means he was really paying attention. Most coworkers will pay attention but only remember the broad strokes or the bottom line of what you were talking about.

Or if you tell him something about a vacation you’re taking or time you have to take off for a personal matter, he’ll remember the dates and the particulars. He’ll know when you’re leaving and when you’ll be back. If he doesn’t have a photographic memory naturally, then his super-strength memory when it comes to the details of your life is a dead giveaway that you matter to him.

If he calls and texts about non-work related matters, staying in touch with you outside of work, this is a sign he likes you. It means he’s thinking about you outside of work and he wants to stay connected to you.

Does he send you emails or texts about articles he thinks you’ll be interested in, or send you funny updates about something going on at work, when it could easily wait until the next day?

A regular coworker would probably just wait and talk to you when they see you at work. If he’s reaching out to you outside of work, he’s probably testing the waters to see if you like him back and would be open to more non-work contact.

signs a shy guy likes you at work

This is one of those areas where a coworker may not show the exact same signs that he’s interested that a guy you don’t work with will, because he’ll be trying to stay in the lines of what’s appropriate for work.

He won’t tell you you’re beautiful or that you smell good, but he might say you look nice, or notice a new haircut or dress you’re wearing. His compliments may steer entirely clear of your physical appearance to be on the safe side, in which case he might compliment your work or the way you handle yourself in a meeting or the way you deal with a difficult customer.

A man who likes you can’t help but tell you the things he likes about you, so pay attention to his words!

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