How to safely meet up on a Tinder date

The Tinder experience is at first confined to the parameters of a smartphone, where swipes and messages live solely within your device. But at some point, those digital conversations might translate into meeting IRL, and a whole different scenario emerges. Youre meeting someone you likely have never met before — a virtual stranger — and dont know much about beyond what a handful of emojis and texts can convey.

To preface, the onus should not be on the individual to remain safe in a dating context. If a genuine — and necessary — culture shift is to take place, people should commit to being allies to marginalized groups, thinking of the greater picture. By actively listening, educating oneself, fighting against misogyny and toxicity even in conversations with friends, a system can be overturned. By doing so, embarking on a date can become a far more positive experience, rather than one in which precautions are necessary to enjoy an evening out.

Tinder has also recently changed its procedures for reporting sexual violence and harassment, hoping to facilitate stronger support for survivors. The new process is easier, allowing users to report directly within the app even if youve unmatched from someone. The app has added the possibility of reporting someone later on, and also reporting specific s or messages.

This streamlined attention towards user experiences has arisen with concerns surrounding safety. According to a report from the Pew Research Center in 2020, 60 percent of women from the ages of 18 to 34 have received messages on a dating app after saying they werent interested. On top of this, 57 percent of those surveyed reported receiving unsolicited sexually explicit s or messages. Most people on dating apps said they had a positive experience (six out of 10 respondents said so), but other stats illuminate the need for progress and security.

Plus, if The Tinder Swindler taught us anything, dating online can always be some sort of a risk. The Netflix documentary introduces an extreme scamming scenario, sure, but the tale underscores the importance of taking precautions. Remaining safe and secure throughout a Tinder date is crucial to actually enjoying all that the app can offer. Then the swiping and potential romance can commence.

Tinder has a bunch of features that can help you out on your dating journey. Take “Does This Bother You?” in which users are asked when theyve received a potentially offensive message. If answering “yes,” youll be prompted with an option to immediately report the sender. Tinder says that the reporting of harassment has increased by 46 percent thanks to this feature.

Whether you call via Tinder itself using the Face to Face video feature in the app, or another platform of choice, speaking over a video call can potentially give you a clearer idea of who your match is. It can also be more genuine than messaging back-and-forth, and is just one step away from meeting in person.

In the UK, the “Ask for Angela” campaign is one to be aware of when out in public, too. The sexual violence awareness campaign entails a code word for people who feel unsafe with someone while at a bar, club, or pub. Posters at certain locales will let you see if that venue supports the campaign, although reports have found that after testing the code word with bartenders and bouncers, the result has been confusion and inaction.

On the same note, turn on some sort of location service, like Find my Friends (Apples mobile tracking app). Other options, like My Location for Android, offer the same service. This way, someone you trust can see where you are at all times. On a similar note: keep your phone charged. Theres also Uber location services, with a slew of safety features including a panic button and “anomaly detection,” for unusually long stops or routes.

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How to safely meet up on a Tinder date

This streamlined attention towards user experiences has arisen with concerns surrounding safety. According to a report from the Pew Research Center in 2020, 60 percent of women from the ages of 18 to 34 have received messages on a dating app after saying they werent interested. On top of this, 57 percent of those surveyed reported receiving unsolicited sexually explicit s or messages. Most people on dating apps said they had a positive experience (six out of 10 respondents said so), but other stats illuminate the need for progress and security.

Whether you call via Tinder itself using the Face to Face video feature in the app, or another platform of choice, speaking over a video call can potentially give you a clearer idea of who your match is. It can also be more genuine than messaging back-and-forth, and is just one step away from meeting in person.

To preface, the onus should not be on the individual to remain safe in a dating context. If a genuine — and necessary — culture shift is to take place, people should commit to being allies to marginalized groups, thinking of the greater picture. By actively listening, educating oneself, fighting against misogyny and toxicity even in conversations with friends, a system can be overturned. By doing so, embarking on a date can become a far more positive experience, rather than one in which precautions are necessary to enjoy an evening out.

Plus, if The Tinder Swindler taught us anything, dating online can always be some sort of a risk. The Netflix documentary introduces an extreme scamming scenario, sure, but the tale underscores the importance of taking precautions. Remaining safe and secure throughout a Tinder date is crucial to actually enjoying all that the app can offer. Then the swiping and potential romance can commence.

The Tinder experience is at first confined to the parameters of a smartphone, where swipes and messages live solely within your device. But at some point, those digital conversations might translate into meeting IRL, and a whole different scenario emerges. Youre meeting someone you likely have never met before — a virtual stranger — and dont know much about beyond what a handful of emojis and texts can convey.

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