How to respond to what’s up on Tinder

In the course of online dating, it’s almost inevitable that you’ll match with someone who seems intriguing only to receive a first message like “Hey” or “What’s good?” It may feel daunting to get a conversation going if the other person doesn’t give you much to work with, but there are a few sure-fire ways to move towards a more exciting and fruitful conversation. Here’s how to respond to “What’s up?”—and other Bumble openers that might not be as inspiring as you’d like!

21 Witty Responses To A “What’s Up” Message On Tinder
  1. “Oh you know, just waiting for someone to send a funny first message on Tinder.” …
  2. “Well, I’m on here so clearly not my love life.” …
  3. “Who told you that’s my favorite first message ever? …
  4. “Because you’re cute, I’ll allow you a do-over.” …
  5. “In this city?

20 Smart & Interesting Ways to Respond to ‘What’s up?’

100 Flirty Responses to “How Are You?” or “What’s Up?”

Are you a flirt? If you are, then you’ve come to the right place! Heres a list that’s full of juiciness and heat. This list contains 150 responses to the “How are you?” or “What’s up?” questions people get asked all the time. They’re all flirty and funny—perfect for spicing up any mundane conversation!

Be wary though, only use these flirty responses if you’re absolutely sure that you won’t hurt or offend anyone. Don’t ever cross the line! If you’re in a real, serious relationship, always make sure to ask for consent first. This list was made in the spirit of fun and playfulness. Always practice discretion and enjoy the flirty hilarity!

Volley back your own playful opener

Since the other person is leaving it up to you to get the conversation going when they open with something like ‘what’s up’ or ‘hey,’ you might want to respond by asking a light, open-ended question. What’s most important is to ask a question that requires something beyond a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ answer, because if the question is too simple it could make it hard for a conversation to flow naturally.

Sexologist and psychotherapist Dr. Kristie Overstreet suggests replying with something like: “Work, life, and staying sane! What are you looking forward to today?” Or you can playfully push them to tell you more about themselves by trying something like, “Hey! If you had to describe yourself in three emojis, which would you pick?” or “So what brought you to [city where they live]?”

Make a specific observation about their profile

Probably the best way to initiate a back-and-forth is to show you’re genuinely interested in getting to know the person you matched with. Look at their profile to figure out where to begin. Dating coach Benjamin Daly thinks of it as a three-step process: Start with a greeting like, “Hey, (name),” which will make it feel more personal. Then “make an observation about something in their profile: I noticed…, I saw…, I didn’t have you down as…” Finally, “end with a question about your observation.”

Whatever you decide to bring up about their profile should feel intuitive: What was it that drove you to swipe right? It could be something like, “I saw you have an adorable pitbull—is he really yours, or did you just borrow him for your Bumble photos?” Or “I noticed that you have photos in Greece! That’s my dream travel destination. When were you there?” Or something simple like: “You seem like a lot of fun. What have you been getting up to this summer?”

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