How To Keep A Conversation Going: 10 Tips For Texting & More

When you’re getting to know someone new — especially a potential partner — half the fun comes from those initial text conversations. Seeing their name pop up on your phone, whether you’re texting about your favorite restaurants or that annoying work meeting you just had, can be really exciting. But what happens when your prospective boo doesn’t seem to have much to say? What if they can’t seem to muster more than a “Cool” or “Not much”? That, friends, is what we call a “dry texter.”

Dry texters aren’t necessarily always “dry” communicators, but their lack of enthusiasm or energy in a text conversation might be tough to work around. According to dating coach and professional matchmaker Anika Rashaun, someone may be a dry texter because they are better with in-person communication, “or they may be the type of person who doesnt want their words misinterpreted via text.”

Regardless of how lively they are in person, trying to communicate with a dry texter who rarely gives more than a one or two-word response via text can be frustrating. If you feel like you’re playing 20 questions with a brick wall, here are 15 great text ideas to get even the toughest person to open up.

How to keep a conversation going over text
  1. Shift the conversation back to the other person. …
  2. Ask open-ended questions. …
  3. Avoid giving dry, short answers. …
  4. Ask the other person about their day. …
  5. Send a meme or GIF. …
  6. Prepare topics ahead of time. …
  7. Mention something they posted on social media. …
  8. Refer back to a previous conversation.

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“Circling back” doesn’t have to be reserved for the office; you can always reference a previous conversation you had with them by sliding in a link you found — or intentionally Googled. This shows them that you paid attention to what they had to say. Plus, it’s an easy way to get them talking.

We could all use some comic relief these days, and asking this kind of question can also give you a better feel for their sense of humor. As Rashaun tells Bustle, “Over time, people become more comfortable as they get to know one another.” Sussing out what makes someone laugh is a fantastic way to do just that.

“Would you rather get a free coffee from Starbucks every day or free season tickets for your favorite sports team?”

“Would you rather” questions aren’t just for the kids. Germany recommends this format as a fun way to connect and make each other laugh. You can get as deep or as silly as you want with this; tailoring the options to make it relevant to them might even create some inside jokes.

“I hope dinner with your mom was nice! What did she say about your new haircut?”

If you or your dry texter are super family-oriented, asking about dinner with their mom or drinks with their sibling is likely to elicit somewhat of a substantial response. Throwing in a specific question they can’t give a one-word answer is also a good idea.

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