How To Be Dominant Over Text With These 68 BDSM Text Messages

Timing – If you want to ensure your partner is receptive to your dominance over text, then the timing matters. Your partner might be totally into the idea–most of the time. But if you send them a message during the middle of an important meeting, they may not be receptive or able to see them. But timing is just one consideration if you want your foray into dominating over text to be successful…

Hitting Pause – One way to ensure your partner is comfortable is by allowing them to hit the pause, stop, or back up button. Think of it as a digital safe word. If something you say is too bold, uncomfortable, or otherwise a turnoff, your partner should feel comfortable speaking up. The same goes if real life forces them to suddenly stop sending BDSM texts. They might be direct or use a codeword/safeword that won’t disrupt your chat. Figure out what works for you.

Hardcore Domination Is Easier When They Are Horny – As you become more skilled at reading your partner’s responses and ramping up the intensity of your messages, you may notice something: when your partner is especially turned on, you can send some of those more hardcore messages that might be turn-offs in other situations.

You may have experienced something similar in bed; when you’re super turned on, you might like it when your partner calls you super dirty names. But if you’re just beginning or not even in a sexual situation, those same things might even be offensive. Someone who knows how to talk dirty recognizes when it’s okay to say certain things, and the same goes for dominating over text.

Caring/Guiding Domination – This is the kind of domination where you take on the role of a nurturing, authority figure. It’s often gentle domination. Think Daddy/Mommy, teacher or coach. You want the best for your partner and need to tell them what to do to be their best. Sending a dominant text like, “I want you on your best behavior tonight, and make sure you wear that short skirt I bought you” or “I’m going to teach you how to suck my dick like a pro.”

Bondage – Bondage is another type of domination that works better when you’re physically with your partner. A reasonable workaround is describing what you plan to do to your partner to dominate them with bondage, “I’m going to handcuff you to the bed” or “I can wait to put your collar around your neck and see your submissive eyes look up at me.”

Teasing – Teasing is a type of domination that can be very tame or very intense or something in between. “I’m going to make you work for it tonight” or “I can tell I didn’t spank you enough last time” or “I’m not going to let you orgasm for a while” are all great ways to tease and dominate your partner through text.

Primal – Primal domination is where you unleash your inner animal on your partner. As you’re not able to do this in person, the next best thing is describing what you’re going to do. “I’m going to rip your clothes off, pin you down on the bed and fuck you until you can’t take it anymore” or “I can’t wait to cum inside you” are great ways to dominate your partner through text in a primal way.

Bottom Line – It needs to incorporate the type of domination that both you and your partner enjoy. Consider your existing relationship when deciding what dominant thing to text your partner to make your interactions personal. One idea? Use a special pet name for your man when you’re in domme mode!

This means you shouldn’t assume that you have to be hardcore all the time… or ever! For some people, the softer, more romantic styles of dominating your partner over text work best. It’s okay if you skip over the types of domination that don’t appeal to you (and might even be better because being too cliche can be silly), as long as they’re not exactly what your partner wants. Then, you’ll need to compromise.

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How To Be Dominant Over Text With These 68 BDSM Text Messages

Not only do each of these scenarios differ, but they can require you to format your messages differently and respond differently to your partner. For example, something like BDSM roleplay over text might require you to send multiple quick responses to your partner’s submisisve texts, while you might be able to give dominant commands in a single message that does not require a timely answer.

Primal – Primal domination is where you unleash your inner animal on your partner. As you’re not able to do this in person, the next best thing is describing what you’re going to do. “I’m going to rip your clothes off, pin you down on the bed and fuck you until you can’t take it anymore” or “I can’t wait to cum inside you” are great ways to dominate your partner through text in a primal way.

Bondage – Bondage is another type of domination that works better when you’re physically with your partner. A reasonable workaround is describing what you plan to do to your partner to dominate them with bondage, “I’m going to handcuff you to the bed” or “I can wait to put your collar around your neck and see your submissive eyes look up at me.”

Scheduled Sexting Can Help – For many people, texting isn’t a form of real-time communication. You may find it helpful to actually schedule a time if you want to engage in a domination role playing scene to ensure that you’re not rushed and you have the privacy you need to send dominant text messages and receive submissive text messages.

Bottom Line – It needs to incorporate the type of domination that both you and your partner enjoy. Consider your existing relationship when deciding what dominant thing to text your partner to make your interactions personal. One idea? Use a special pet name for your man when you’re in domme mode!

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