How to Ask a Girl for Her Number In 4 Seamless Steps

Asking a girls number step by step
  1. First, Be Confident. …
  2. Introduce Yourself. …
  3. Make Small Talk. …
  4. Deepen the Conversation. …
  5. Make an Emotional Connection with Her. …
  6. Tell Her Stories About Yourself.

How To Avoid Being Labelled As Creepy When Asking For A Girls Number

Step 1: Be close to her before you get her phone number.

During the course of a conversation with her, get closer to her to see how she responds to your presence.

Proximity is very important for chemistry and attraction because this is how a woman can get a stronger sense of you. You can discover much more about this here.

Women “feel their way” through proximity to you, more than sight alone.

This is a critical first step in how to ask a woman for her number because if there’s no chemistry, there’s no number exchange!

There are three mini-steps inside this step:

  • Move closer to her whether standing or sitting, slowly and gently, so that it’s like two very close friends talking, two people very comfortable and happy with each other.
  • Read her response to your closeness. Is she drawing closer in return or pulling away? For more on this topic, check out my article on flirting signs or my article on how to know if she wants you to make a move.
  • If she’s drawing closer or if she’s “neutral but happy,” meaning she isn’t coming closer but maybe she’s leaning into you more and smiling, then you can stay close to her. If not, then definitely create space again quickly.
  • You can touch her gently as well, if you are comfortable with that. But proximity alone is straightforward and simple, so it helps you set up the dynamic well as you go to get her number.

    Step 2: Hint that you’d like to see her again.

    There are two ways you can do this:

    (Option 1) Plant the seed. While you’re talking, see if you can direct the conversation to your favorite bars, coffee shops, parks, or other fun first date ideas.

    You can mention a place and how much you like it and ask her if she has been there.

    If she has been there before, you can say…

    If she has not been there before, you can say…

    (Option 2) Tell her you enjoy her. If suggesting a place doesn’t come up naturally, no worries! You can tell her something like…

    When you say this with confidence, this will make her heart flutter if she at all feels attracted to you!

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