How should I behave after a mutual breakup? We still love each other, but in a situation where we need to separate.

How To Get Your Ex Back In A Mutual Breakup

1 1 of 11:Give each other space for a while.

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    Both of you need time to heal. Its hard when youre used to leaning on your partner for everything, but after you break up, its best to avoid calling or texting them. Youll probably need at least a few weeks before you can talk without feeling hurt again, but dont be surprised if it takes longer, especially if you were together for a long time.[1]

    • Try not to hang out in spaces where you know your ex usually goes. Its also probably a good idea to unfriend or unfollow each other on social media.
    • If one or both of you has decided its really better to break up, getting some space will help you avoid the pull to get back together or hook up one last time—either of which will likely just prolong the end.[2]
    • If youre not sure you want to be broken up, taking some time apart will help both of you sort through your feelings and figure out what you want to do.

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  • 2 2 of 11:Take a few days to really grieve.

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    Lean on supportive friends and family members. Youre dealing with the loss of an important relationship, but that doesnt mean you have to go through it alone. Chances are, you have a friend, family member, or coworker who will be more than happy to let you vent. Talk to them about why the two of you werent a good fit, but be open about the fact that you still care about each other. Not only will this help you process what youre feeling, but your friends may be able to help you get some perspective on the situation.[9]

    • If youre not comfortable opening up, try writing about your feelings in a journal. Its a private way to work through your emotions so they dont feel so bottled up.
    • If youre not sure who to talk to, try joining a local support group or reach out to a therapist.
  • 5 5 of 11:Keep yourself busy.

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    Fill up your time doing things that make you happy. After a breakup, you can sometimes find yourself with extra time on your hands. Dont just sit around and think about your ex, though! Nows the time to do some things you really love. Watch a movie youve been meaning to see, read a great book, go shopping, head out of town, take a new class—the skys the limit, so get out and enjoy yourself![10]

    • When youre ready, open yourself up to going on dates with new people. Even if youre not ready for another serious relationship, it can help to see what else is out there.

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