Do Scorpio men in love ever let you go?


Hot and Cold: Your Scorpio Guy

I keep getting queries from people who are with a Scorpio and confused about his behavior. They ask questions such as: “My Scorpio guy acts hot and cold” or “He just stopped talking to me for two weeks. Why?” To clear things up, I thought that it would be good to mention some of the traits you may encounter if you are considering a relationship with a Scorpio.

  • Mood swings: He can have frequent mood swings. This is not necessarily because he has PMS issues. He just gets overwhelmed easily. He keeps thinking about 10 different things at one moment, and he needs to focus on all of them but can only manage one at a time. He feels that he is always in the eye of the storm. That is one reason why he may be all over you one moment, and the next moment act completely distant. Even while talking to you, he may suddenly think of something else he needs to handle. A Scorpios mind never rests.
  • Focus: In general, he needs to focus on one thing at a time. For him, difficulties are problems to be solved with undivided attention. Thats the reason he may prefer not to talk to you for some time (because he is trying to solve something with extreme focus). Dont always interpret his silence as “he is upset with me.”
  • Reluctance to commit: He doesnt rush into a true relationship. You two may hit it off immediately, but it takes effort and diligence to prove yourself as his soulmate. Of course, once he believes you are “the one” he will be extremely loyal. The only reason he may commit adultery is if he thinks that you are not the right one.
  • Sensitivity: He should come with a special tag that says “Handle with care.” He has a tough shell on the outside, but he is extremely sensitive inside. You dont always know what will hurt his feelings. So, be extremely careful when you talk to him, especially if you are having a heated conversation.
  • Relationships with a Scorpio can be intensely passionate. Once you crack that “tough guy” shell, there are few star signs more devoted or loyal in love. However, theres a dark side to that loyalty: Scorpio men can also be jealous and oppressive partners. Here is some advice on how to handle a relationship with a Scorpio man.

  • Be honest: Avoid playing games. I am not discouraging you from playing the initial courtship games but dont take it too far. If you have given him your word, stick to it. Scorpio men seldom trust anyone, and not keeping your word is the easiest way to lose his trust.
  • Be assertive: He can be dominating and possessive in relationships, but dont let him get away with this behavior. He respects a woman who can hold her ground and does not give in easily. Be confident, and stand up for yourself and your needs.
  • Be wary of manipulative behavior: He can be a master of mind games and manipulation. If you hurt him deeply, he may even make “destroying you” or “teaching a lesson” the sole purpose of his life. There are very few who have evolved beyond a point of vengeance. If a person is stalking you, he most probably has a Scorpio element somewhere in his birth chart.
  • Dont worry if you dont always understand him: His behavior may sometimes seem pretty weird. We are not very good at explaining our reasons for doing things, and he probably has something in mind which he is not talking about. It is extremely difficult to understand what goes on inside a Scorpios brain. If you dont get it, let him explain eventually, on his own terms.
  • This advice is mostly from my personal experience. Feel free to let me know what you think.

    All Scorpios are not the same. After all, there are different levels to which a Scorpio has evolved. To get a clearer picture of what may be the level of evolution of your Scorpio guy, check out my article on totems of a Scorpio.

    Question: Why does a Scorpio man tell me he wants just a physical relationship, and has no strong feelings and no strings attached? I told him that I love him and want a serious relationship. Would he ever fall in love with me if I accept the physical relationship with him?

    Answer: It really depends on what the Scorpio guy wants. A physical relationship may not necessarily translate to love in his case.

    Question: My boyfriend of 4 months is a Scorpio, its been intense from the beginning. He tells me that hes falling in love with me, that he loves me, and misses me or is looking forward to seeing me, though. At least once a week he feels the need to remind me that he does NOT want to be in a relationship, but doesnt want to lose me. I never once pushed him for a relationship, I love him. But Im so confused and not sure if Im coming or going?

    Answer: If he is absolutely sure about his love, he WILL make a move. Till then, you may have to wait patiently.

    Question: I fell in love with a Scorpio man, the shy kind. I recently found out he is married, but his wife lives out of the country. I am so mad he didn’t tell me. What should I do?

    Answer: Tell him that he kept it a secret and move out of the relationship.

    Question: Are male scorpios controlling?

    Answer: They are controlling to a certain extent. But there are various levels of control and it really depends on the person.

    Question: My Scorpio boyfriend and I have just parted ways on good terms. He wants to focus on his health and work issues; I agreed, and we parted friendly! He says he cares a lot about me and I am all these wonderful things under the sun. Will he come back, or is it a move on situation?

    Answer: I would say dont keep your hopes too high. If he comes back, great! If he doesnt, then move on. See if you can afford to give him some time to get his stuff sorted. If not, then better to take care of your own stuff.

    Question: Will a Scorpio commit to marriage?

    Answer: Yes, but only if he/she is absolutely sure.

    Question: I am in a relationship with a Scorpio man, we have a great sexual connection, where it is very passionate at times. Even though we have great sexual chemistry, when we are out for dates or just hanging out at different venues, he will never hold my hand or keep the same pace as me (walking wise) or even lock eye contact. Is this normal behavior for a Scorpio? I am kinda offended, but I didnt know if I should be. By the way, I am a Leo if that makes any difference. Thanks.

    Answer: Scorpios are generally not into PDAs (public display of affection). So, you may have to bear with it.

    Question: My crush is a Scorpio, what can I do to get his attention?

    Answer: I think the first thing you need to do is appear a little mysterious. Scorpios love solving a mystery. So, be a little mysterious and appear as if you dont care much for his attention.

    Question: What does it mean if a male Scorpio keeps looking at you?

    Answer: It normally means that the person is interested in you.

    Question: I am dating a Scorpio man who loves me dearly, but is very jealous. He is supportive and much older than me. He spoils me sometimes, but he has not taken me to see his house as yet, and he stays with his children. Could it be that he does not love me enough?

    Answer: He may still have other things to consider. He may be sorting out other things in his life (if he has to sort them out).

    Question: My Scorpio man swept me off my feet after few weeks of meeting him. I noticed that when hes upset or disappointed, he doesnt speak up. Sometimes well be talking via text and hell leave me hanging. Overall, he doesnt say much except for when he tells me how much he loves me and that Im his everything. I sometimes get mixed messages and it drives me nuts! He sure knows how to snap me outta my funk when Im sad or upset though by saying the right thing. Is this a typical Scorpio?

    Answer: In one word, Yes.

    Question: How long would a Scorpio man wait for the woman hes interested in?

    Answer: Unless he feels that he should really move on, he will wait for as long as it takes.

    Question: I want to date a Scorpio! I love him and think he loves me too, but is shy, hesitant, and fears love because of past experiences. What should I do?

    Answer: You can probably give him subtle hints that you love him. The rest, you may have to sit back a little and watch. If he really loves you, he will come for you.

    Question: Ive been dating a Scorpio man and the sex is great. I asked what is it that he wants, and his reply was simply, “I enjoy you.” What does that mean?

    Answer: It could be just the physical part he may want. Scorpios dont commit easily. The best thing is to directly ask him.

    Question: I am dating a Scorpio man. He says he loves me but doesnt show his emotions. He doesnt show any romantic gestures; I dont understand why he will say he loves me, and not show it. Is this normal for Scorpio men?

    Answer: Scorpios seldom show emotions, and are rarely verbal in expressing love. But always look at their actions. If they are trying to woo you even in the subtlest way, then that means that they are into you.

    Question: What is the best way to handle dating a Scorpio during his cold stage?

    Answer: I think that you should leave the person with little interference, but just enough to show that you are still there if needed.

    Question: I started dating a Scorpio man recently, he told me he is falling in love hard with and he is going to leave his girlfriend of many years for me. Is he telling me the truth does he just want to get into my pants?

    Answer: Dont trust him yet. A Scorpio doesnt leave a long-term GF/BF so easily. It is not even possible for them to get out of a relationship easily.

    Question: Hi, my Scorpio boyfriend wouldn’t say he loves me but treats me like a princess when we’re together. He would go beyond to impress me, and he did say action speaks louder than words. Does he love me or not?

    Answer: For Scorpios, actions do speak louder than words. If he treats you really well, then he may indeed love you.

    Question: How loyal are Scorpios ?

    Answer: Scorpios are generally known to be very loyal to their partners. Though they take a long time to commit (they dont commit unless they are absolutely sure), they remain loyal once they are committed.

    Question: Ive been in a relationship with a Scorpio man for two years. I am a Leo woman, and it is challenging. Do you think it will work?

    Answer: Yes, a relationship between a Leo and a Scorpio is challenging. The clap has to come from both hands, so see if you guys can work it out.

    Question: Do Scorpios like their space?

    Answer: Yes, Scorpios very much prefer their personal space.

    Question: Ive been dating a Scorpio man for the past ten weeks. Hes very attentive when were together. He cooks, created “his and hers” Easter eggs and provided a toothbrush for his flat. But our physical relationship has become very ‘domesticated’ already! He works very long hours with very few days off with the police. I’ve barely heard from him in the past few days. I’m not sure if his interest is waning or it’s the pressure of his job. I want to be supportive, but I don’t want to neglect myself. How do I approach this?

    Answer: From what I understand, he may NOT be ignoring you. Scorpios do anything with full passion. Right now, he may just be a little focused on his job. See if you can give him a casual call yourself and see how he is doing in life.

    Question: I was with a Scorpio man, and we were in love. Then all the sudden he had mixed feelings and said he doesnt love me the same way. I dont know what to do. Im in love, but he isnt. What should I do?

    Answer: I think probably he never really “loved” you. It may actually have been an attraction or infatuation, and he may not have realized it earlier. Scorpios love with passion. If they dont feel that passion within themselves, they are not in love.

    Question: I have been dating a Scorpio man for the past month and a half. We are sleeping together. I told him that I liked him, but he didnt say anything back. Is that a rejection?

    Answer: Scorpio men usually keep their feelings to themselves. If he truly loves you, he will say it to you. Meanwhile, he may be evaluating his feelings.

    Question: Why are Scorpio men so mean?

    Answer: Every zodiac sign has a fault. Scorpios is being mean. Alternately, mean also comes from not being able to understand a Scorpio completely. Dont worry! No one can completely understand a Scorpio. Sometimes, not even a Scorpio themselves.

    Question: I have been sleeping with a Scorpio man and just want to get away from him. He plays mind games with me constantly. I tried to make it civil and told him I was developing feelings for him and wanted just to be friends. When I decided to end things he wouldn’t leave me alone and told me stuff as he cares for me and crap. How do I end things on a good note and get him just to let me be?

    Answer: I guess getting far away from him may work.

    Question: Why would he tell me that he loves me and wants me to have his child, and then start ignoring me?

    Answer: It is difficult to understand what goes on in a Scorpio mind, as they do not openly communicate. You may have to wait until he is in a better place.

    Question: Im a Scorpio myself dating a Scorpio man. How do I keep the relationship strong?

    Answer: Scorpio-Scorpio needs a little compromise when it comes to love. The disadvantage in this relationship is that both are intense and are too much alike. This could also be good as they have some common positive attributes. Both should understand this and try and capitalize on the positives than the negatives.

    Question: Why does my Scorpio man always make me choose where we go on our dates? Is he not really interested?

    Answer: Nothing like that. Scorpio guys dont necessarily try to be in control of everything. They are easygoing when it comes to many things.

    Question: I am dating a Scorpio man for one month, and he told me that he loves me after one week of dating and has started talking about getting married. Should I trust him? I am Libra woman.

    Answer: There is an interesting attraction between Libra and Scorpio. But being a long-term match is a little tricky. Dynamics change after marriage, which I dont know if he is aware of or not. Due to their strong traits, both may end up annoying each other too much sometimes. So, you need to be careful before committing to such a big move.

    Question: I’m an Aquarius woman in love with a Scorpio man. Will our relationship work out, and how?

    Answer: It is undoubtedly a difficult match as both characteristics are different and their temperament usually has nothing in common. If other aspects of the birth chart/natal chart are matching, it may work out.

    Question: I have been in love with my Scorpio best friend for almost 5 years. We are officemates. We are always together and we travel together. I dont know if he has feelings for me. Im afraid to ask because hes very reserved and shy. Hes always there for me though and he treats me differently from other girls. do you think hes in love with me?

    Answer: Just because he treats you differently doesnt necessarily mean he loves you. Scorpios feelings can be complicated. A Scorpio may show the same care for a friend. So, look into his actions and behavior. See if he kind of becomes obsessed with you or kind of restless when you are not around. Again, a Scorpio may not acknowledge that these are feelings for that person. So, there are a few signs you will have to look at before deciding that he loves you.

    Question: Why does a Scorpio man always pretend to be okay even if he is not?

    Answer: That is probably because of their secretive nature. They dont want to show their true emotions, especially the sad ones, to others.

    Question: I am in love with a Scorpio guy, and he told me that he has started to love me more than he thought. After a few months, he told me to move on because he thinks I deserve someone better. But he keeps talking to me, and he even wrote a song for me. What does this all mean? Does he love me?

    Answer: Its possible that he may still love you, but he feels insecure about something.

    Question: Does a Scorpio male have a tendency to forget?

    Answer: If it is not something important, they dont bother remembering it.

    Question: I recently confessed to a Scorpio man, but he hasnt given me his answer on whether he wants to date me. What does it mean?

    Answer: It probably means that he hasnt made up his mind yet. Do not try to push him, though, as it will just push him away.

    Question: Why would a Scorpio man tell me that he loves me but have a lot of friends who are women at the same?

    Answer: A Scorpio man can have a lot of women friends and vice versa. Doesnt mean that they are in anyway involved with them.

    Question: Im a Virgo woman who has recently reconnected with a man from about 40 years ago. We just started talking, and within a week he is saying how he wants me to be with him, and he said he wants to fall in love again. He wants to be treated right. The problem is Im still married. Should I just stop this right now? If not I am going to leave my husband.

    Answer: I think you should stop it, assuming that your marriage is not on the verge of falling apart. You can probably try and make him understand that you live a different life right now.

    Question: Do you like answering all these Scorpio questions?

    Answer: Some of them, I reply to. Others, I dont. Some questions do not have a straight-forward answer and some others are kind of repetitive.

    Question: Im a Scorpio woman dating a Scorpio man, why arent our signs compatible?

    Answer: The challenge of Scorpio-Scorpio is that they are too much alike, both in positives and negatives. The love is magnificent but imagine a fight between them.

    Question: I am currently dating a Scorpio man. He broke up with me, but he came back. He always talks about sex. He does not know me properly, but he cares about my sickness. Does he love me?

    Answer: It is very difficult to say. When it comes to love, Scorpios dont make quick decisions. So, you may want to wait for some time to see the signs.

    Question: My Scorpio musician friend told me he loves me but then became distant and hadnt wanted to meet up again. What should I do?

    Answer: How long has it been since you two met? If its not been long, then he may still be undecided. Scorpios usually take a long time before they commit. So, he could still be undecided.

    Question: I am an Aquarius woman and hes a Scorpio man. Why does he tell me that its not going to work? We havent even done anything yet.

    Answer: The reason is that both Scorpio and Aquarius have different ways of thinking and different psyche. Scorpio is a water sign. That makes them very emotional. They usually prefer traditions and structures. Aquarius, on the other hand, is an air sign. They are more free-willed. They dont like to be bound. Moreover, both are fixed signs which mean it is very difficult for them to change their outlook, thinking or decisions in life. Hence, it is indeed difficult for them to survive with each other. Maybe as friends, they may be good but in a relationship, it is going to be tough.

    Question: I have turned down a Scorpio guy many times, and he still keeps on asking me out. Im a Virgo, and I think I like him. He is slowly creeping in my life, but Im scared. What should I do?

    Answer: What are you going to lose if you allow him in your life? Ask yourself this question and decide. If you do decide to go ahead, be extremely cautious about the roller-coaster ride.

    Question: I’m a Taurus woman with a Scorpio man, should I believe him when he says that he wants to marry me?

    Answer: If he is really insistent, then you can believe him.

    Question: I have a Scorpio friend that Ive known for a year. He courted me, but my feelings for him were not the same. He is still talking to me like a friend. Is he still in love with me?

    Answer: He may be confused about his feelings towards you at this point, or he may want to take some time understanding or expressing his feelings.

    Question: I would like to know if a Scorpio Male introduces you to his kids and parents, is he serious?

    Answer: It could be quite possible that he is serious.

    Question: I dated a Scorpio man a few months ago, and then he disappeared all of a sudden. We met a few months afterward, and he said that he really likes me, but he couldn’t be in a relationship right now as he is going through a divorce, with two young children involved. I love him, and I make sure to never put pressure on him as I KNOW for the moment he cannot offer or promise anything. Am I wrong to hope that things will get better? Or am I being fooled and used for sex and fun?

    Answer: I think you wait for a little and then see if things may improve on his side.

    Question: I met a Scorpio last month. It was an amazing date, and there was a lot of attraction, but after, he didnt speak to me for a week. We then got back on track, but then argued. Now hes blocked me and wont speak to me! Whats wrong with him?

    Answer: He may not have been that into you.

    Question: I met a Scorpio guy who used to be more loving until I hurt him. Now he seems more distant. What should I do?

    Answer: I think you should remain quiet for a couple o days and watch what he does. If everything is fine, he should become restless if he sees no reply from your end.

    Rissa on July 20, 2020:

    Im in love with a Scorpio man. We are together 9 months now. Sometimes I am getting confused with his actions. He can disappear for 2 weeks and then appear again, no communication I mean. At first I didnt believe him but now I am convinced to his words. He says I love you and that he wants to marry me. Also when he is disappearing, says is cause of work, been busy a lot. When I tried to break up with him, he was emotional down and wanted to be together. I do not know if he wants to be with me. He even asked me to move in with him.

    Jlewis110 on June 26, 2020:

    Xotic70… since some time has passed, Im hoping that youre doing much better than before. Im sorry you were going thru what you went thru but (concerning your question 2 yrs ago) the simple truth is thats what scorps do. Its just a part of our nature. When a scorp pulls what seems to be a dissappearing act, most times they felt crowded and that was (in their perception) the best option… to avoid confusing or hurting the person they stopped communicating with at the time. I mentioned that it may appear to be unfair, unthoughtful, and even a bit cruel. But remember, I was talking about the Scorpios perception. It is not unkind to the scorpio. In fact, to the scorpio… it is an act of kindness. You dont have to understand. No one does. Its just one of those crazy things that scorpios do and it is instinctive. Thats why many times people have seen scorpios reappear almost as if coming back from the dead. At least, thats what it may feel like. Lol. The point is however, when looking at scorps, do not try to judge what they do. They wont care. They WILL care about your feelings and perceptions if they care about you. But, they will show that care by asking you questions. Not by listening to your perception of their actions. I know and yes, I get it. This sounds insane! But trust me, many people gravitate towards scorpios because they are so mysterious. Once again, do not try to figure them out. When they come out of that cave, if they have made up their mind to pursue, they will. Do not give in until they give in and give all!!! That means wedding bells!!! It is a chance.. but if you decide to “go there” with a scorp, then youd better be prepared to be FULLY COMMITTED! If you arent prepared, then dont play with a scorps emotions. You wont like the outcome. But if you think you want to try.. youd best make sure youre ready! Because if you arent… no matter what you think, the scorp will not only feel something is off… they can EASILY sense it!!! If youre not in it completely with them, then DO NOT MARRY THEM! You dont want to see their other side! IF they are not “planning a wedding with you” and they give a reason to not commit to you yet… then TELL THEM YOU WONT COMMIT TO THEM! You MUST BE UP FRONT, HONEST, AND DIRECT with a scorp.. pure and simple! You may cause them to pull away but its better than being put on pause for weeks, months, or even years while they figure out if they really want YOU or not! But… if they ask why youre suddenly so direct or giving what seems like an ultimatum, then quietly and calmly respond with… “If you refuse to commit to me, why should I commit to you???”. This will get their attention and MAKE THEM SEE THE BRUTAL HONESTY AND TRUTH OF YOUR QUESTION! Life is not certain and no, you shouldnt be sitting around just waiting for someone to come back into your life. Treat them like you did that perfect handbag you love so much! If they dont snatch you off the rack and “claim you” by putting you in THEIR cart (engagement) and immediately taking you to the cashier (chapel) so they can purchase (marry) and take you home as once and for all “THEIRS” (husband and wife)… then how can they expect to come back to the store (your neighborhood) and assume that nobody else has purchased (married) you? True, some things may very well still be hanging on the rack but we shouldnt assume the product is going to “wait” for that ONE CUSTOMER to come back some day to purchase it. So, if they arent ready,

    then continue as acqaintances (hang on different racks in the store together) but not as friends (with benefits) or they may NEVER purchase/marry you. Who wants to buy at full price a designer bag that has been used by others already? No boo boo… thats called the floor model! If you want them, then wait for sex. If youve already done the deed, then let them know youve grown and are now saving yourself for your husband. Tell him that for you, play time is over and youre no longer “just having fun”. Real love to a scorp is not sex and it shouldnt be to you either… sex between two hearts that are really in love is LOVEMAKING! And if youre in it just for the sex, then that may be all you get. Therefore, if they wont commit to being with you ONLY, then do not have sex with them and put your hope in a future. If you do, you may find that you will be waiting, and waiting, and waiting, and waiting. The reason for this is because you seem too easy. That is not an insult. Its just another crazy thing that scorps consider. That was way too easy!!! And trust me… a male scorp can woo almost anyone out of their panties with ease!!! And if it is that easy for you to have sex… and then consider being with someone for the rest of your life, then how easy will it be for someone else to woo you into throwing the towel in behind your scorps back, and giving in to some other person? If you want ro marry a scorp, then sit up and listen carefully… Save The Cookie… and Dont Give Any Nookie!!!!! Period and point blank!! Thats All Folks! LOL. Once again, I know, it sounds crazy. How can you keep a man if you wont sleep with the man? Well, thats just it!!! How are you gonna keep me… if were not married but you sleep with me? So… dont give him any cookies.. unless hes ready to own the bakeshop! Are you listening Xotic??? Do you hear me??? That should be sound advice for any other man as well!!! Anyway, feel free to respond if you wish. All in all, I hope this helps and I hope you are doing much better and have moved on. Best wishes to all the readers.

    Misaki on June 21, 2020:

    Im dating a scorpio and Im pisces. He makes me choose between him and my family. Everytime I try to make him understand that i cant lose my family he gets mad. I cant exactly give up everything for him. Im scared that hell leave, he gets attracted to girls easily and he has never made me feel like Im enough

    Benedicta lamont Aidoo on May 30, 2020:

    Am dating a scorpio guy but is a distance relationship we both love each other will thing work out for us?

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    Nadz on May 05, 2020:

    Met a scorpio guy 5 months back he was too into me told me i love you we hanged out more than once then he kept on and off then he asked me if i love him i didnt give an exact reply, and when i told him that i do love him he backed up and said we can talk normally but im not capable of marriage we both are poor and cant afford mariage need a rich lady then i asked him if hes being serious or its a joke he said ofcourse am joking and now am not talking to him anymore he confused me big time what shall i do?

    Krisha on April 25, 2020:

    Ive met a Scorpio man online and felt like theres magnet between us. I just like how deeply sensitive he was and so straightforward and sincere on how he feels about me. He saiid he likes me a lot and I felt that it is genuine. We have talked for 3months, we already have arguments and little fights along the way. At first, we managed to apologized with each other but after the last misunderstanding he hang up the video call, (I feel hurt because I was still talking) and never said a thing to me again. Then hes posting some stuff that pertains exactly to me one negative and one positive. Btw, its been 3 months since we last talked too. What should I do? I miss him a lot.

    Sandra on April 19, 2020:

    Known a Scorpio man for 30 yrs had a fling with him no strings remained friends as in if I saw him somewhere we would have polite conversation go separate ways only 2 yrs ago happened to see him started talking he’s married now has been for sometime but this man wooed me wouldn’t leave me alone he finally got me hasn’t really left me alone since texting ringing when he can now I don’t want him in that way or to break up his mar

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