Dating? Be aware of the ‘3-month rule’

What the post-breakup 3-month rule basically means is that all parties previously linked must wait three months before dating again. The reason for this societal dictation is to give the people involved a breather, some lead time, maybe a little room for forgiveness.

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Dating? Be aware of the ‘3-month rule’

The first three months of knowing someone is a time of illusions. Instead of seeing the person objectively, you see them for who you want them to be. Your object of desire is laden with fantasies and projections. I think it takes about three months to strip away the layers and start to see this person for who they really are.

Also, I think three months gives you enough time to see if the new person in your life is consistent. Do they call when they say theyre going to? Do they cancel dates? Do they even have time for dates? Do they want to hang out once a week or six times a week and does that mesh with what you want? How do they treat you after a month? Any major disagreements on fundamental things? How do they behave in different situations?

With all the disappointments that can come along with dating, I say why bother getting yourself in a tizzy about someone who could be a Russian spy? Thats why I always say to myself, to my friends, and to you, single people, check in after three months and tell me how great the new person youre dating is.

I dont want to sound cynical or jaded. I totally believe in love for myself and my friends, but what I believe in more is that it takes a really long time to get to know someone and its a complicated process. Whirlwind romances were all the rage for me in 1997, but Im older and wiser now … and no longer wear red velvet leopard-print pants.

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