Best 26 Tips on How to Text a Girl – Make That Connection Absolutely Magic

Because it’s incredibly easy to get in touch (you can text, call, Facetime, Facebook, etc.)… so if you wait much longer than 24 hours before texting her, she’ll think you aren’t interested (in other words, texting is easy, so why wouldn’t you text if you really like her?). If you want to make her feel like you really want to talk to her, then by all means, talk to her.

While music and movies are a great topic of conversation, this is a terrible question. The yes or no format doesnt give her anywhere to take the conversation. It will either make her end the topic or make her uninterested in talking to you. Choose a conversation starter that is open-ended to get her to open up about herself.

These messages are perfect because they refer to something you already know about her. It shows that you are invested in her personal life too. They let her know that you care and that youre cheering her on. As a bonus, they give you something to talk about later in the day.

This flirty text lets her know that shes on your mind at the end of the day. Feeling valued and desired will draw her closer to you and be the perfect ending to her day. Appeal to her emotion in a good way, and she will think that she holds a special place in your heart.

How to Keep a Conversation Going with a Girl over Text
  1. Ask Her Interesting Questions. …
  2. Ask Her about Her Life and Background. …
  3. Ask Her about Her Hopes and Dreams. …
  4. When You Learn Something about Her, Ask More Questions about It. …
  5. If She Asks You about Yourself, Be Vulnerable and Share. …
  6. Leave Her Wanting More.

How to Text a Girl You Like -14 MUST KNOW Rules To Texting A Girl

5. Remind her of something that happened when you met

This is one of the best tips on how to text girls.

Meeting her was a positive moment for you… and it was likely positive for her too (you can tell because she gave you her number, right?)

So, in your first text, put her back in that positive mindset by reminding her of something funny/cool/interesting that happened when you met.

My favorite approach?

Remind her of something funny… shell associate you with laughter, and girls love someone who can make them laugh!

Good texts to send:

“Great meeting you, (her name). You made being the DD bearable!”

“(Her name), I’m so glad Stella introduced us. Even with Stellas

neighbor calling the police… meeting you was the most interesting

Both texts above are great. It’s fine to drop a compliment (she made the night better for you) when you remind her of something interesting that happened.

Do not send these texts:

“Hey, it’s Ryan.”

These texts are so boring! Send her something interesting that the two of you will remember from the night you met. If you have an inside joke or a snippet you recall, mention that to re-establish the connection. Once you do, it will remind her of the great moments you shared.

The further girls get from high school, the more upsetting it is when men still text like theyre in high school.

You know what Im talking about… bad grammar, misspelled words, and useless abbreviations (2 instead of to, y instead of why, etc.).

Dont make a mistake and think that grammar doesnt play a part in texting.

Here’s the thing:

It takes hardly any time to type full words instead of abbreviations or double-check for mistakes before sending a text.

Its not a “texting style” if you have terrible grammar. Bad spelling/grammar makes her think that youre too lazy to do those things… so re-form the good first impression (that you’re a classic, intelligent, purposeful man) by using proper grammar when you text.

Good text to send:

“Hi (her name)! Nice to meet you yesterday. You made a boring

“Hi (her name)! I loved doing karaoke with you last night. Lets set another karaoke night soon.”

The text doesnt have to be complicated (this one has a straightforward message)… it just has to be grammatically correct. Even punctuation and sentence construction matters here.

Do not send this text:

“Heyy (her name), I had fun at the event, good 2 meet u there.”

You may be a nice guy and all, but sending a text like this wont help you get the girl. If you want to win over a womans heart, pay attention to your grammar. It will help you a lot.

7. Text her the same way she texts you (‘mirror’ her)

The secret code for how a girl expects to be texted is right there in her texts. Follow her example on these things:

  • How much to use emojis
  • How long texts should be
  • How fast you should answer her (does she text back every 5 minutes, every hour, etc.)
  • How much she likes teasing/poking fun at each other
  • Letting her set the tone is the easiest way to meet her expectations.

    Good texts to send:

    “Hi (her name), how was the concert last night?”

    Until you know her tone, these are the types of texts you should send: purposeful, interesting, and fundamental. These texts also give her a chance to respond accordingly. They can start a good conversation.

    Do not send these texts:

    “Hey (her name)!!!! How was the concert?!? 😀 😀 ”

    The tone is too casual, uses too many emojis, and has too much punctuation. Now: if she starts texting you like this, feel free to match her tone. Its only okay to do it if she does the same.

    Heres another real-life example from me and someone I met in college:

    I actually got this text from a man: “heyyy babay 😉 😉 😉 ” I had to wonder if a man was texting me, or a 14-year-old girl. I was so turned off, I immediately deleted his number.

    The whole purpose of back-and-forth texting is to get a date, right?

    So don’t send random texts that don’t help you achieve that purpose. Otherwise, she might lose interest in you… or worse, think that youre just friendly instead of flirting.

    Now… here’s some examples of good, purposeful reasons to text:

  • To compliment her (makes her want to date you)
  • To entertain her (makes her think you’re flirting)
  • To ask her for a date
  • But remember:

    Purposeful texting, even complimenting her, is meaningless unless you actually get to ask her out.

    Good texts to send:

    “I was just thinking about you.”

    All of these texts have a purpose: to make her feel good, entertain her, or speak in person and (hopefully) ask her for a date. If you want to get a girls attention, do your best to make her feel loved and valued.

    Do not send these texts:

    “Its crazy cold today, right?”

    Neither of these texts has a real purpose. They’re just talking for the sake of talking and dont get you any closer to dating her. This isnt a text game or a pastime. If you want to be her boyfriend, you have to talk about things that lead somewhere. If you dont, your relationship will be stuck where it is: on the phone screen.

    Girls usually don’t want you to text back immediately every time, but it’s not because she wants you to play ‘hard-to-get’…

    … its because she wants someone with a job, friends, hobbies, and a life outside of pursuing her. Basically… she wants someone with better things to do than sit around texting.

    Make her wait a while in between texts. Don’t answer back the moment she texts you… leave about 15 minutes between your responses at first (then after your first date, match her tone/speed in texting)

    Good texts to send:

    “Check this out…my buddy took us bungee jumping today!”

    (it doesnt have to be bungee jumping… but send her a picture of you

    “Sorry I havent responded in a while. Work is crazy today.”

    Anyone whos not crazily needy will love seeing that you put the phone down to have fun or to focus harder on your work.

    Do not send these texts:

    Any text every five minutes, or as soon as she texts you.

    Avoid double texting. Hide your neediness and be an independent man. Show her you have a great life outside of talking to her!

    Like I mentioned above, girls want to know that you do have interests outside of talking to them…

    …and sending exciting pictures is the perfect way to show those interests.

    She’ll be intrigued by your lifestyle, and of course, excited that you want to include her in your fun activities.

    A good text to send:

    “Guess what I did today!” With a great picture of you doing something

    fun, like riding motorcycles, kayaking, or doing any manly hobby.

    Shell see that your life is full and fun that shell want to join in. Having a hobby or exploring your passions is something to be proud of because it adds to your knowledge and personality. The more you are exposed to the world, the more interested she will be in learning about you and your whole self.

    Do not send this text:

    “Im bored. What are you doing?”

    As I mentioned above, she wants to see that you have a life, and not that you spend your free time doing nothing. Boring questions like these also show that you think of her only when youre bored.

    So far the tips in this post have been meant to help you text while you figure out where things are going…

    But once you know that youre into her, the game changes completely. You need to know how to text a girl you like.

    Texting a girl you like is different from texting someone youre unsure about because your goals are different. You dont just want to get familiar with her… you want to show her how you feel and make her feel comfortable doing the same.

    The ironic thing about these tips is that they can actually lead to less texting. After all, you wont be texting her while youre spending time with her.

    Heres how to text a girl you like:

    Figuring out how to compliment a girl can be tricky. You want to be original and flirty, but you also dont want to come across as creepy.

    The best compliments for girls make her feel unique. They show that you recognize the things that make her one of a kind. Use your compliments to demonstrate how thoughtful and observant you can be.

    Good texts to send:

    “Ive never seen someone make friends so easily. Youre such a friendly, lovable person”

    I love the way your mind works. Youre so thoughtful and intelligent.

    Your eyes are so beautiful. I just cant look away from them when were together.

    These texts compliment her on something specific and show your appreciation for that quality. They show her that youre interested in her as a complete person, not just as a beautiful woman.

    Do not send these texts:

    “Youre so funny!”

    Theres nothing wrong with telling her that shes attractive or funny, but these texts dont show that you put any thought into them. Compliments that shell actually appreciate the need to be more personal and specific.

    Nothing could be more wrong.

    Not only does that thinking prevent men from being their truest, fullest selves, but it can also keep you from starting a good romantic relationship with the one you like.

    Sweet things to say to a girl can take many forms. It could be an unexpected compliment, a meaningful quote, or a story that you know shell appreciate. Just be sure to make your feelings for her clear.

    A thoughtful, kind message will remind her that youre thinking about her even though youre apart. Sweet texts like that will brighten her day and keep you on her mind long after she reads them.

    And theyll score you major points.

    Make your texts sweet, personal, and unique. Embrace your softer side, and you might just get a few extra embraces from your girl.

    Good texts to send:

    “No matter how hard I try, I cant stop thinking about you”

    You became so important to me so quickly… it was totally unexpected, but Im so glad youre in my life. I want you to know that youre special to me. Nobody makes me feel the way you do.”

    These texts give her a peek at the way she makes you feel. The vulnerability of sharing those sweet feelings will draw the two of you closer together and make her feelings for you stronger.

    Do not send these texts:

    “My friends all tell me how attractive you are”

    These texts are meant to be sweet, but they fall short by not mentioning your feelings for her. Also… never compare her to an ex. Comparing will get you nowhere but on her list of guys to avoid. Dont be that guy.

    13. Show her your good traits, instead of telling her

    I understand you want to show her how witty, well-read, generous, and wealthy you are.

    But here’s the thing:

    She doesnt want to be told any of those things over text. Bragging on yourself like that only makes you sound arrogant, and very few girls find arrogant men attractive.

    Instead of telling her straight-out how awesome you are, show her in person. Use texting to charm her into going on a date with you, where you can show her how awesome you are, instead of outright bragging on yourself.

    Good texts to send:

    “Id love to take you to dinner.”

    “I finished my book last week and cant find a good one… any

    “I love dogs too! My favorite weekends are the ones I spend

    These texts imply that you can afford dinner, like to read, and volunteer with animals, but dont brag about these things. You put the focus on her instead of bragging about yourself.

    Do not send these texts:

    “I just closed a million-dollar deal with a client.”

    “Looks like the charity I support named me a Top Donor!”

    Obviously, these texts seem arrogant and desperate for attention… a huge turn-off for girls. Instead of telling her flat-out in any way you’re well-off, well-read, and recognized for generosity, humbly show her in person.

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