30 Conversation Starters for Texting That Go Beyond “Hey”

To start a text conversation, try messaging about something you did together, like commenting on how good dinner was the other night. Alternatively, ask them a question, such as “What are you doing this weekend?” You can also try something attention grabbing, like a funny story about something you just saw or did.
  1. Send an honest compliment. …
  2. Make a reference to something that they mentioned. …
  3. Let them know that you are thinking about them. …
  4. The cliffhanger text. …
  5. Send a GIF, meme or emoji. …
  6. The teasing text. …
  7. The light and casual text.

How To Start an INTERESTING Text Conversation with Your Crush

Don’t Start a Text Conversation This Way

Most experts we talked to agree to avoid potentially heavy topics and to save them for the phone or an in-person conversation. According to Concepcion, stay away from “heavier topics about your relationship status, your past hurts, personal victories and disagreements or misunderstandings which can easily be taken out of context.” Similarly, “When you are texting back and forth and think to yourself, Why are we not talking on the phone? then this may be the time to ask if you can call,” Ray says.

Ray adds, “You also want to absolutely avoid statements that are sexually explicit in nature unless that is your only goal. Initial texting conversations should always be light-hearted, inspirational, inquisitive, and fun to create a friendly and engaging open dialogue.” Other things to be mindful of when texting someone new? Your tone, use of emojis, and when the text conversation is over. Says Ray, “Some people like to text forever and you may not be in a space or time to do that. Always have a plan to politely end your communication.”

As a rule of thumb, texting someone new means keeping things light and involves back-and-forth dialogue about shared interests, finding common ground, and learning about who they are, says Ray. “It takes some time getting to know someones communication style and may be best to ask in the beginning, So are you a texter, or do you prefer to talk on the phone? or Can you text at work, or when is the best time to text you?” Relationship expert Robyn Koenig of Rare Find adds, “The key to conversation starters is to be interested in the other person without coming across as anxious or desperate for attention. Keep it light and show you have a genuine interest by reaching out with questions that allow for responses beyond one word.”

Below, use this list of 30 conversation starters to jump-start your next text thread with someone new:

What do you have planned this weekend?

This conversation starter serves two purposes: It allows you to get an idea of their interests while enabling you to suggest a rendez-vous if their schedule is open.

How would you describe yourself in three words?

Are they the type who never misses a day at the gym, or do they find zen through binge-watching TV? Either way, knowing how a person winds down is as important as understanding what keeps them going.

True, this question can come across as a corny pick-up line, but knowing their zodiac sign can give you a glimpse into their personality. Plus, you can do some research into their signs compatibility with your own.

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