Best Tinder Openers in 2020 (Conversation Starter Experiment)
âOK, I can already tell we have the same sense of humor.â
Whether itâs based on the books they read, the TV shows they love, or the witty quotes theyâve peppered throughout their profile, itâs often fairly easy to tell when you share someoneâs sense of humor. Point it out in your opening line, and start bonding.
âOn a scale of 1 to 4 at-home COVID tests, how free are you tonight?â
Anyone can appreciate a funny pickup line, but getting creative is key. Incorporating interesting current events makes for an easy laugh, and gets a fun conversation started.
âPoll: Cereal first? Or milk first?â
Ask them whether itâs more acceptable to pour milk first when making a bowl of cereal or to pour the cereal first. Itâs a light-hearted way to get a conversation started, but it also gives you insight into each otherâs pet peeves â another funny topic of conversation.
GIFs + Tinder Opener = More Responses
GIFs are eye catching. Add in a dose of freaking adorable and she can’t help but notice your message no matter how packed her inbox is.
Tinder’s got a GIF suitable for just about any occasion, so finding one that ties in to your conversation starter isn’t difficult.
Here are 3 more advantages of using a GIF as a Tinder icebreaker:
Of course, you can’t let an animated do ALL the work for you. You need to follow up your GIF with a strong line and include an easy, fun-to-answer question like in the 4 examples above.
Animals make great icebreakers, even without a GIF. If she’s putting a photo of her pet(s) on Tinder, it’s a safe bet she’ll enjoy talking about them. Use that to your advantage in a message like this one:
Travel is another conversational topic that appeals to most women.
Or here’s a bit of science you can use to get more Tinder responses – talking about yourself stimulates pleasure centers in the brain.
You can’t go wrong with an opening line that invites her to share something about herself.
And if you’re making her feel good… those digits will be coming your way with a quickness.
See how an interesting question stands out like a beacon in a sea of lame opening lines from boring men?
Boring gets you nowhere. If the first Tinder message you send doesn’t spark her interest, she has no reason to expect things to get better from there.
That’s why when you ask her something that’s entertaining to think about, and she’s far more likely to engage in a conversation.
Here are 4 examples of fun to answer, imaginative questions you can ask a girl you like on Tinder:
Even with the best Tinder opening lines in the world, there’s a certain percentage of women who simply aren’t going to respond the first time. But should you give up? Heck no.
You don’t have a clue why she didn’t reply. There are a million reasons, like thinking she’d get back to it later, but then failing to do so. For all you know, Orange Is The New Black was starting right when she saw your icebreaker.
Always send a laidback follow up message on a dating app to see if she bites the second time around, because it will increase the odds that you’ll get a reply.
If she doesn’t respond to your Tinder opening line, here are 2 effective follow up message examples you can try:
GIFs like this one can make great stand-alone follow up messages, as your meaning is clear but presented in a humorous way:
If it’s still crickets, let it go. Sending 3 unreturned messages in a row crosses the line into Loserville… population: you.
For all those DIY’ers out there, here is a quick Tinder conversation guide for men with everything you need to know to write your own pick-up lines.
For a Tinder opening line to actually work, it needs these 3 crucial elements:
This is where most guys crash and burn. When she reads a first like “Hi there,” or a like “nice smile” that she gets all the time, she doesnt feel anything.
Boring opening lines like that don’t spark an emotional connection, so it’s easy for her to ignore them and move on.
The best Tinder conversation starters make her laugh, or think about something pleasurable. And when that happens, she’s hooked.
She wants to respond, because it’s a fun thing to do.
And that brings us to the next crucial element:
If she’s even remotely attractive, she’s getting a lot of action on Tinder. And the hotter she is, the more nitpicky she can afford to be.
So if your Tinder opening line isn’t easy to respond to, odds are good she won’t bother.
There are two ways she’ll interpret an opening message like that:
Either way, you’re screwed. Boring, beta-sounding conversations tend to fizzle out fast, along with any hope of meeting her in person.
An attractive girl already has charming men making her LOL on Tinder, so she has no incentive to waste even a moment on your snoozefest.
Did you notice that every single one of the successful Tinder opening line examples you’ve seen poses a question?
That’s not a coincidence – that’s an effective Tinder strategy.
Now she doesn’t need to scramble to think of something to say – she can simply answer whatever you asked.
Hooking her attention immediately when she reads your opening line is crucial, because you’ve got about a split-second to intrigue her before she’s moving on to the next person.
If you can flex your creative muscles and put a smile on her face, you’re golden. Several recent studies have found humor is a siren song that lures women in, so bring the funny.
“A B C D E F G, R U DTF W/ Me” isn’t classy, and it’s only funny if you’re a 7th-grade boy. There’s a reason so many lines like that end up on the “worst Tinder lines ever” blogs – she’s so not impressed.
Let’s talk about the best time to say it:
For instance, if your ideal Tinder match is a career-minded woman, 10:00 am on a Monday is not a great time to send her a message as she’s likely at work.
Even if she does see it, will she remember to open your message again, then respond when she’s got the time?
You also want to be aware of what that time stamp says about you.
If you’re messaging her after midnight, she’s more likely to file you under ‘hookup’ and respond (or not) accordingly.