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Simple gestures like kissing, cuddling, or even just holding your hand are indicators that a guy is still attracted to you. If he’s outright recoiling when you try to hold or touch him, he’s losing (or may have completely lost) his attraction to you.
16 Devastating Signs Your Husband Is Not Attracted To You Anymore
Here are 10 signs to tell if he’s not attracted to you anymore.
When a guy is truly into you, he will ignore all the little annoying quirks you have. But if he stops being attracted to you, all those quirks will become increasingly aggravating, and can even make your formerly relaxed partner get snippy with you.
2. He is struggling with to get it up… increasingly often.
This is perhaps one of the most obvious signs that something is missing in your love life. If he is healthy and generally in a good mood, there is just no good reason he shouldn’t be able to get regular erections.
3. He never gets jealous
Jealousy is a natural thing, especially when it comes to a guy who is truly interested in you. But if your guy never bats an eye when he sees you texting or having a smiley conversation with another guy, he’s just not attracted to you. And don’t even bother trying to make him jealous, because he simply doesn’t care.
3) He doesn’t seem to be engaging in conversations with you like he used to
He used to love talking to you. He paid attention to the small details, showed authentic empathy when you talked about your problems, and seemed genuinely excited to be talking with you.
But now? His energy isn’t what it used to be. He hardly listens, and rarely offers his advice to help you figure out your problems.
Look, I’m going to be honest. This is probably the single most important sign that he is losing interest in you.
Because the truth is this:
When a guy is interested in a girl, his main way of getting the girl to like him is through engagement and conversation. Men know this.
They’ll try to make you laugh, they’ll listen to everything you have to say, and they’ll try to tease and flirt with you as best they can.
After all, they don’t want to let this opportunity slip.
However, if he is a nervous type of guy, then the signs to look for in a conversation may look different. He might stutter over his words, or struggle to look you in the eye, but one thing he won’t do is not listen.
If he likes you, even if he is nervous when he is talking to you, he’ll still ask you countless questions and listen to all that you have to say. He’ll want to avoid silence at all times.
The reason he is nervous is that he wants to make a good impression. And that should be fairly easy to differentiate compared to a guy who has clearly lost interest in you.
When a man is committed to a woman, he’ll go out of his way to protect her. Having protective instincts comes very naturally to him.
Common ways a man will protect a woman they’re still interested in include:
On the flip side, if a man isn’t protecting you like this then he’s not committed to your relationship. Unfortunately, he’s probably lost (or is at least losing) interest in you.
The good news is that there is something you can do about it.
If you haven’t heard of the hero instinct before, it’s a new concept in relationship psychology that’s generating a lot of buzz at the moment.
What it boils down to is that men have a biological urge to protect the women they want to be with. They want to step up for her and be appreciated for his actions.
In other words, men want to be an everyday hero. And it’s built into their DNA to seek out a relationship with a woman that makes them feel like one.
The best way to trigger the hero instinct in your man is to watch this excellent free video.
It reveals the texts you can send, phrases you can say, and simple things you can do to bring out this very natural male instinct.
Are you always texting him first? Are you the one asking him out?
Early on I’m sure he was the one who initiated your dates and text messages, but if that dynamic has changed and you’re now taking charge, then he might have lost his zest to spend time with you.
Look, there’s no getting around it: A man that is genuinely into you will make time for you. He’s not going to leave it to chance to “hopefully ” run into you.
It’s not easy for a guy to meet a woman that he likes spending time with, so when he does, you can bet your bottom dollar that he is going to initiate meetings with her.
Another sign to look out for is how he is responding to you in your text messages. Is he giving you one-word answers and not really spending time crafting his responses? Not a good sign.
And if he never sends you a text message out of the blue, and you get the feeling that if you stopped texting him that things will fizzle out, then unfortunately you might not be on his mind anymore.
However, I do want to point out an important caveat here:
If you’re in a certified relationship with the guy, then the number of text messages between the two of you will probably decrease over time.
After all, sending text messages to each other all day every day just isn’t sustainable. And as the relationship becomes more settled, so will your communication with each other.
Do you feel like you’re doing all the work in the relationship? Do you never get to do what you want to do when you’re spending time with this guy?
Does he seem to not be putting in as much effort as you?
These are all the hallmarks of a “one-sided relationship“, the type of relationship where the power is imbalanced and one person is putting in a lot more in terms of resources (time, money, emotional investment) and getting little to nothing in return.
In essence, the biggest sign of one-sided relationships is the amount of effort you’re putting in.
If you’re initiating all meetings, always texting first, expressing your feelings, providing all the romance in the relationship…and this man simply isn’t pulling his weight in all these areas…then it might be because he is no longer interested anymore.
In fact, if you can relate to some of the signs above, then it’s clear that you’re putting in more effort than this guy.
For example, if you find that you’re being constantly canceled on and your partner is always flaking, they must just not be invested in the same way that you are.
It’s clear that this is a one-sided relationship and you’re unfortunately more interested in this guy than he is with you.
All of a sudden he doesn’t have time for you anymore. He is always working late, catching up with his buddies, or going to the gym…you’re now hardly ever a priority in his life.
When he was “wooing you”, he’d never miss an important date. Any of his free time was dedicated to you.
But now? Now he never says a flat out “yes” to any of your initiations to meet.
He’ll say things like “maybe we can meet on Saturday” but when it comes around to Saturday, he has an excuse lined up for why he can’t meet you.
The truth is, something better came up, and that’s why he never wanted to fully commit to meeting you in the first place.
It reeks of flaky behavior, but you can turn it around by triggering his hero instinct.
The hero instinct is the best-kept secret in relationship psychology. And it holds the key to reversing the course of a relationship that’s on the wrong track.
The best thing you can do is watch this excellent free video from the relationship expert who discovered the hero instinct. He reveals the simple things you can do starting today.
By following his simple tips, you’ll tap into his protective instincts and the most noble aspect of his masculinity. Most importantly, you’ll unleash his deepest feelings of attraction towards you.
You can really tell a lot about a guy by how he spends his free time. After all, his free time is the time where he can literally choose to do whatever he wants to do.
So if he used to save the weekends for you, but now he almost always seems to be doing something else, then you know that his priorities have changed.
Is he dating other girls? You don’t know, but it’s always a possibility.
However, remember that when any new relationship starts out, everything is really hot and heavy at the beginning, but then things almost always slow down after a period of time (it happens to every couple).
So if your relationship is entering the solid phase, then it’s quite normal for him to do some other stuff on the weekend. In fact, it’s healthy to have a balance in your life.
But if you’re not at that stage in the relationship, and he is choosing to do anything else but spend time with you on the weekend, then it might point to the fact that he is losing interest.
What’s more, when you guys do eventually meet up, he’s always ready to end the evening halfway through.
He doesn’t care if you go home early. He has other plans he wants to do that night.
A guy that is interested in you wouldn’t do that. They’d want to spend every lasting minute with you, not cut the time sort.
Look, there are always exceptions. He might actually be busy with other tasks that he needs to do, but in general, a guy that likes you will want to spend his free time with you.
Remember: If something feels off, then it usually is.
A guy that is interested in you, and feels comfortable around you, will display “open body-language”.
It means that he will spread his legs wide, pull his shoulders back, and point his body towards you.
A guy that likes you will stare at you, lean in, and if he is a confident kind of guy, he might be a little more touchy-feely as well.
He likes you and his body isn’t afraid to show it.
So if this guy’s body is “closed towards you”. For example, his body is pointed away from you, he is perhaps folding his arms, he is avoiding eye contact and he won’t even sit close to you, then it might show that he’s not interested in you anymore.
These kinds of body language moves will likely be pretty obvious to witness. It might give you that “gut feeling” that something is wrong.
Another sign is if he just isn’t flirting with you. He won’t tease you, have fun with you, and laugh spontaneously.
10) He has only suddenly realized that he is not attracted to you
Guys can lose attraction, sometimes. This is especially true if he loves the thrill of the chase, but now that he has you, he no longer needs to chase you and his attraction might be waning.
If you’ve only recently started dating this guy (meaning it’s early in the relationship) then it might just be that he’s simply not interested in you anymore.
I understand that this might be brutal to hear, but many men out there aren’t good at communicating their feelings.
He knows he has lost interest, but he doesn’t know how to express that with you. He doesn’t want to offend you.
So perhaps he has decided that acting distant is the best strategy in communicating that he simply isn’t interested in you anymore.
If you’ve fallen hard for this guy, then this definitely sucks, but here is what you need to ask yourself:
Do you really want to be with a guy who isn’t honest about his feelings?